Dana (gdkerplunk) wrote in thequestionclub,

My friend just recently broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years. During those three years, they had a child - now almost 2 years old. She has been seeing this new guy for the past two weeks, and there's something about him that disturbs me.

I think what he is wanting is an instant family. He is already talking to her about wanting kids with her, and has completely stepped into the dad role for her son. The plus side about him being around is that their son is actually being properly discipline, and has a more normal sleeping pattern. What I don't like is how he feels he has a complete say in how this kid is raised. He has been in the picture for 2 weeks, and when my friend tries to do things, he'll put his two cents in. For example, she thought the kid might have been hungry. In the process of making his food, he said, "Don't you think it's a little too late to be giving him food?"

From what I know, the reason why his last relationship died out was because he wanted a family and she didn't. Now he's with my friend who has a son - instant family.

I don't know if I even have a right to tell her what I think of him... or give it some more time.

I just feel he's in this relationship for all of the wrong reasons, and I don't want my friend getting hurt.

What would you do?

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