I always say "Mom and Dad" or "Grandma and Grandpa" when I use titles like that, but when I say people's actual names, I usually put the guy first. "Steve and Suzanne" "Mark and Tracy." Is there some sort of accepted way to do this? And how do you do it?
Also, would you get married close to a family member's birthday? Say the weekend directly after it or even the day before? When the relatives in question are your brother and your cousin and the birthdays in question are 18 and 14.