Cara or C.C., whichever you prefer (ms_octopus_lady) wrote in thequestionclub,
Cara or C.C., whichever you prefer
ms_octopus_lady
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Sooooo...I got dumped for the first time ever yesterday. I had been dating this guy for about six months and he broke up with me over e-mail.

This guy is a friend of one of my best friends; that's how we met. My best friend has been there for me through thick and thin for the past eight years that we've been buddies. He's like an older brother to me in a lot of ways.

I really want to call him and tell him how sad and upset I am that I got dumped and...I dunno, I just really NEED him right now. I need his support. I need him to tell me that getting dumped sucks and he knows it hurts now, but it'll get better soon, just give it time and I just...really, really need my older brother. I'm, like, crying right now and I just need to hear his voice on the phone telling me that everything is going to be all right.

But I'm worried because...I mean, he's friends with the guy I dated for six months, and I don't want to make him feel like he needs to choose between me or him or take sides or anything. And I don't want him to, he can keep being friends with him, I don't care.

Should I call him?

How would you feel if one of your best friends called you up after getting dumped by another friend of yours?

Or maybe I should text or Facebook message him first with, like, a disclaimer? Saying something like, "Heeeey, Best Friend. So...Your Friend dumped me yesterday. I really want to talk to you about it, but I don't want to put you in the middle or anything. So if you feel comfortable talking to me, can you give me a call? If not, I TOTALLY understand. I don't want to put you in the middle."

OK, gonna go sob into my pink satin pillow and write bad poetry now...
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