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PERSONAL DRAMA AHOY

Hello, TQC. Today is move-out day for the slowboyishsmile. I was just getting ready to drive down to my house to get some bins to bring back to my dorm, when I see my mother marching up the way with a vengeance. She wasn't supposed to be here yet. Once I got her up to my room, she proceeded to yell at me for not having enough shit packed yet. Now, I know she's upset because today is the day that she's doing closing on her mother's house. She passed away earlier this year and I know it's rough for her. However, when she gets upset, she tends to get a bit...I don't want to say emotionally abusive towards me, but I don't know how else to describe it. She says things I know she doesn't mean, very, very hurtful things I have a hard time forgetting about later. So when she started up, I just told her to go home, over and over again. I didn't know what else to do. As far as I could tell, she was angry/upset when she came here and just felt like I needed to be yelled at. I try to remain emotionally detached and not react, although I did say 'fuck' once. Finally, she left, but she said I can't come home tonight and never wants to see me again etc etc.

I know this is a really rough time for her, but I don't know how to comfort her when she gets like this. And the fact that she resorts to insulting me or purposefully trying to be hurtful doesn't make me really want to be comforting, to be honest. I told her we didn't have to move out today (a bit of a lie, but if it would make her feel better, I would talk to the school or something) and/or she really didn't have to help me (I offered this before but she assured me everything would be fine).

So I'm sitting here, binless, until my father comes around at five. Hopefully by then, I'll be allowed back in the house. Until then, I'd like to know - how do you think I could better have managed this and the other situations which will doubtlessly arise once I'm back home? I really want honest criticism because I want to avoid this. Also, she keeps calling me, but she's not saying anything useful ('that shirt doesn't go with those pants', 'your father isn't coming' even though he is because I just called him and he's not angry at me). I feel bad, but should I stop answering? I don't want to piss her off more, but she seems to just be trying to upset me and I don't need that.
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