I am posting for an IRC friend who needs advice. I'll call her Beth. Beth recently got engaged to a man she's been dating for a few years, I'll call her fiance Jake. Beth loves Jake very much, and Jake loves her. However, over the past few months Beth has started to realize she isn't actually sexually attracted to Jake. Or any men at all, for that matter. Beth thinks she might be a lesbian, but hasn't told Jake because it would devastate him. It was suggested that she call off the engagement so she can figure out if she can actually be happy long-term with a man, but despite the lack of sexual attraction Beth says they have a good relationship and she doesn't want to leave him. She does worry sometimes though that she might be happier with a woman.