a) in a flat with only one housemate who's rarely home, the place is generally always quiet and peaceful and you can do basically anything you want?
b) in a flat with about 3-4 other people, (but you have your own private room), there are almost always people in the living room (so you don't have much freedom) but it's never lonely?
also, what is it about parents comparing their child's grades with other children? it's so awful... my sister's exam grades just got out as well as my SO's sister's. my sister didn't do as well as his did, and i dont really want to answer when his family asks me what my little sister got. i don't want my sister to feel awful about it.