tqc, i need you to tell me if i'm being unreasonable. my family has a tradition of going out for lunch to celebrate birthdays, and the birthday person gets to pick where we go. i usually don't tell everyone where we're going until about an hour or so before we have to be there (partly because i usually don't decide more than 24 hours in advance), but none of my family lives more than 10 minutes from where we usual go. one set of aunt and uncle and my grandma seem to think they NEED to know on friday or saturday (we always go on sundays).
am i being unreasonable by not telling them a few days in advance?