we've known each other since we were 7 or 8 years old but only really became friends about a year ago, which was about 4 years after high school. we were kind of friends in high school but then i dropped out(and finished at the community college).
anyway, so we've been hanging out the last year and it's been fun. we like going to bars and shows and getting coffee and talking about boys and music and life and bitching about our jobs, you know, the usual. but the thing is, every once in a while she'll say these really catty things.
examples: she knows i've had some pretty intense feelings for my best friend for a long time and have just over the last year started really getting over it but she'll still tell me how she has a crush on him(he's a mutual friend and she's also known him for a long time, they just aren't close like we are). she says she wouldn't ever do anything but she can't help crushing on him.
she's joked about how it would be funny if the guy at the bar i have a crush on liked her instead of me(fyi, he clearly isn't interested in either of us, he doesn't even talk to her, and me and him only talk about soccer while he's making/getting my drink).
a few weeks ago she brought up ago our prom, when the people we knew hated me and bullied my date out of taking me, and said, "Wasn't it funny when we all hated you and made you not come to prom?" or something like that. not QUITE that bitchy but still, bitchy.
the thing is, other than this stuff and her know it all/only child attitude, she's a really good friend. she's a good listener most of the time, gives advice and is the kind of person that would drop everything if you were in trouble.
basically, i have this friend. she's a good friend and we've been hanging out for about a year, though we've known each other since we were about 7. we get along very well, have fun, etc. but she keeps saying these catty things to me once in a while, and i seriously can't figure out where they're coming from. like, stuff about guys, something that happened in high school that's kind of a sore subject, a friend of ours i had a falling out with.
i don't think she would see me as any kind of a threat. she's more attractive than i am and guys really dig her, she's always getting hit on while i never do. neither of us are in school at the moment or in competitive fields.
where the are these comments coming from? why?