elsiemOnster (elsiemonster) wrote in thequestionclub,

it's over

I had a friend (let's call her B) who stopped talking to me in early April because she was offended by something I said to her girlfriend. Basically, I wrote something to her gf saying that she needs to grow a spine and stand up for herself. B read it because it was on the gf's laptop. Angry, this friend suddenly stopped talking to me. She didn't tell me she was mad at me at first but I figured it out. She eventually wrote me an e-mail that sounded like she was venting over years of things that she hates about me, certain things I do and say. So I apologized but didn't take back anything I said and I was honest and said something like, "I don't think you realize how much your gf compromises for you." To me, I was being an honest friend, but she took more offense to it.

So... it's been 2 1/2 months since she talked to me. Last week, she started IMing me like nothing happened -- the same chit chat we use to do. She hasn't tried calling me by phone yet (until today when she left a voicemail on my cell). Now she invited me and my partner over for the holiday weekend. They live 2 hours away and before, we'd go out there and stay overnight or an entire weekend.

My question is :

Should I go? and, What would you do?

I don't like this phony resolution without resolving anything. She's not a talker. As long as I've known her, she has a very limited ability of having heart-to-heart talks with her friends.
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