There are three of us kids - I'm 24, my sister is 21, my brother is 16. I think my dad is waiting until my brother graduates from high school to leave my mom. How do I go about asking him this?
1.) About two years ago this time, my mom and I got into an argument. She stopped speaking to me (as is her usual punishment) and when she tried to start again, I just ignored her. We didn't speak for 6 months. During this time, my dad asked me what I would think if my mom gave him divorce papers. Nothing ever came of it.
2.) My parents got a new dog about a year ago. Both agreed to the dog, but now my mom hates it. Like, to the point of having the dog out in the yard and opening the gate so that it would run away. The fiance and I have talked about it and would be willing to adopt the dog when we get our own house. I ran this by my dad the other day and he just said that if mom kicks the dog out, he's going as well.
Note: I do think my mom has anger-management issues as well as being depressed or bi-polar. She's never gotten help for any of it. Grandma's been saying for the past 15 years that "she's just going through the change". Personally, I don't know how my dad has stuck around for so long.
Has anyone went through their parents divorcing when they (the children) were older? How was it? How did you all handle it? And..are there any communities for this sort of thing?