How do you deal?
My parents split about 8 years ago, but they're still buddy buddy. Because of this I have to see my father every now and then, and since I've gotten my job he asks me for money quite frequently. My mother shells out child support for my brother, as well as random checks when my dad is really "in need".
I feel that going to your 20 year old daughter who you verbally, physically and sexually abused for cash (for trivial things) is out of line.
I can't bring myself to tell him to fuck off, but I'd love to. I have no balls.