junebug80 (junebug80) wrote in thequestionclub,

Long question....

You know that book, 100 hard questions of realistic issues you are supposed to consider and talk about before you marry someone? Well, where do you draw the line? The reason I ask is because I tend to get really attached to guys and if I feel like I "love" someone, then it seems like anything I can come up with as to why I might not want to marry them is trivial and something to be ignored compared to how strongly I feel. But, I also know that Love is not all you need and theres so much more to making a marriage work. However, I can't get my emotions to follow suit with that idea. The thing I have a hard time with is that a lot of the things that I look for in an ideal guy are tangible and seem trivial to me, such as likes classical music or prays with me. What I really want is something intangible that I can't put my finger on: compatibility and maturity, etc. I can't measure that. And I can't expect a guy to answer the exact same as me to every question in that book.

So, my question is, where do you draw the line between something that should be overlooked in a person and something that you should not live without?

I think there should be a lot of things that you should not live without because you're committing the rest of your life to this person. At the same time, however, when you're in love, none of that really seems to matter at all....
  • Post a new comment


    Comments allowed for members only

    Anonymous comments are disabled in this journal

    default userpic

    Your reply will be screened

    Your IP address will be recorded