Queen of Hyperbole (dragonjaze) wrote in thequestionclub,
Queen of Hyperbole

How do I tell a friend that I just don't have the time or energy to be social with them?  I like him, and we have fun when we do stuff, but I'm just not the person who can maintain multiple relationships.  I'm already stretched to the limit with a boyfriend, a best friend who is half a country away, and a large family.  I'm not used to having the SO and the best friend being different people, and I just moved back to live with my family after not seeing them for 20 years.

I like the guy, and wouldn't mind emails and occasional outings.  I just can't do this weekly get together thing.  I've declined the invitation for a month straight now, and I feel bad, so I'm going to see him today. But I'd really rather go home and have a quiet evening.  How do I tell him that I just can't handle having this many friends, without really losing him as a friend?

Some people are natural loners.  I feel exhausted if I have to keep up with more than 2 or 3 people.
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