1. In the situation described, am I being selfish or unreasonable?
2. Am I being an entitlement whore or a drama llama when it's unwarranted?
3. Am I missing some key to the picture that will make it seem less like my company is being unreasonable, or just trying to see how much crap I will put up with for them?
Anybody who actually reads and responds will receive Internet brownies because I'm really perplexed by this whole mess.
So, I was given a promotion at my job. I say given because offered implies that I had a chance at the time to say "no thanks." Details about the promotion are slowly coming out. As it stands right now, I've been given a promotion, but like many things in my life, it has come with a poison pill: I am being asked to do the six-week training at a store 26 miles away.
"Whine, whine," some say. "You live in San Diego. People routinely commute 100 miles one way for work for years." To which I submit the following:
1. I don't drive.
2. The store is in a mall that precedes the infrastructure in its area. That is to say, it's a 26 mile one-way trip, and about 8 of those miles are on surface streets or unfinished freeways. It's a 45-50 minute drive in great traffic.
3. To have someone drive me would imply that someone is willing and able to put 100 miles per day on their car on my behalf, five times per week, for six weeks. Nobody in my personal life is willing or able to do that.
4. It's a 2:45 one way public transit trip, by which I can't open or close the store, meaning that 2/3 of my training is impossible to accomplish.
6. This extra public transit, or taxi riding, or fairy godmother driving, is for hours paid at my associate wage, at which my income and expenses balance out to roughly, and often less than $0 as it is.
So, this is an impossible situation, some might conclude. My manager, who didn't create this situation, vaguely mentioned that the management would help me get to work. Their plan, as well as I can figure? My wife! The theory: my wife works for the same company as I do. Therefore, they can find out my schedule, and schedule her shifts within mine. Thus, my wife could drive me to work at store 1 (26 mi), then go to work herself at store 2 (21 mi from store 1), and leave in time to pick me up from work at the end of my shift.
The first problem that I see is that we can't afford to have my wife doing that kind of driving. That's 2 tanks of gas per week just for work, and we can barely afford the tank of gas we use each week from our 14 mile-per-day round trip commute plus other driving. The second problem is that it's not her responsibility. They couldn't possibly expect that from her if she didn't work for the company, and thus they can't expect it from her period. To expect that she provide the solution is to imply that she should be reimbursed for her driving, which would never happen.
I've been thinking this over for several days, and worrying about it a little, and so I ask you Internet, am I being selfish or unreasonable?
I don't think I am at all, but I have a very subjective point of view. I couldn't see myself ever commuting that far for a job that pays less than a living wage unless it is because I was commuting for my own business that I was nurturing off the ground, in which case I'd still better have a damn good reason to do something I swore I'd never do.
Of course, I see some of the counterpoints: it's just for six weeks, and it leads to a better wage. However, I only see a few solutions here, and none of them line up with my management's solutions. One is to have Kelly temporarily transfer to the same store as me and work the same schedule as me, which I will only propose if she's okay with it. Another is to let things go, and turn my manager's vague promise to "help get me there" against him by calling him at 4:00 every morning the week I open and midnight every night I close to have him drive me. The third is to decline the promotion for now, which I'm sure I could still technically do, and leave my manager with the uncomfortable choice of taking the only other suitable supervisor, who he doesn't want for some reason, or trying to mold someone less suitable into a workable candidate.