September 16th, 2018


I'm a cis lesbian, and I recently got asked on a date by a transgender woman. She's a friend of a friend, so we've met before, though we hadn't interacted one-on-one. She asked me in a semi-public place while we were slightly away from our friends.

I turned her down and I was accused of being transphobic TERF. Loudly. Two friends stepped up to defend me, but I was rather bewildered.

I know what transphobic means, but what exactly is a TERF? Should I have turned her down in a specific way?
  • piperki

When do you delete someone from your contacts?

I have a longterm casual friend who was planning a semi-retirement move out of state last fall, immediately after a vacation somewhere outside the country. I saw her shortly before the vacation, and reminded her I was happy to help organize, pack, clean etc, but she didn’t need me (she has grown kids nearby who planned to help.)

When her tentative moving date was looming, I texted her to see how everything was going. This was her answer. “It’s been crazy and a real whirlwind. Soon as we’re back in the states I'll send more info. On our way home now.”

That was one year ago. Should I assume the crazy whirlwind still has her too busy to get in touch? How long do you go without hearing from someone, before you just understand that they are GONE?

  • charuby

Need a title for a story

Hi everyone! I'm currently writing a story and I need a title for it. I don't usually struggle with titles. I've got pages and pages of them and usually one just jumps out at me, but for this one I'm struggling.

The premise of the story is this: A young man is stabbed after he finishes work by a local drunk that frequents the bar he works at. The reason he gets attacked is because the drunk man has demons from his past that have rendered him mentally unstable and he latches on to the protagonist because he is looking for someone to blame for his past (his past involves alcohol and a murderous mother who killed his brother and then tried to kill him before killing herself). The protagonist thinks he has died and has come back as a ghost, but he's actually in a coma at hospital and is astral projecting. He extracts revenge on the man who stabbed him during his astral projection.

So I've got two titles lined up:

Blood Runs Deep
Bitter Blood.

Which one do you think would fit this story? I'm also open to suggestions if you have other title ideas. Thanks!