April 11th, 2017

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I'm going to ask what might be an awful question, but firstCollapse )

Which ultimately leads to this question:

Can friends financially outgrow friends, especially when their abilities to participate in their shared interests results in one having to conceal activities because they upset the other?  tl;dr info: The hugest part of the income disparity is because one friend and her SO, who both went to college, quit jobs very frequently while the other friend and her SO, both who didn't get to go to college, have slogged on doing the same ones and buiding up their clients and working up in the industry.  So choices do factor in.

Editing to add something maddening: This weekend there's an out-of-state event we (I'm either B, C, or D) all planned on, and the three of us came up with the money to cover her. It's cost us about $1,200, plus the money we came up with for incidentals, like food. A couple hours ago she messaged us and told us she forgot to ask her SO's mom if she can watch the son, and it's too late now since the grandma has other plans, and her SO "deserves" a weekend to himself if she gets to go on vacation (in other words, he doesn't want to parent their son). She asked us if we can cover the cost of a babysitter for the weekend. She has one lined up for $400. If we can't cover it, then she can't go. We are PISSED THE FUCK OFF right now. So we either come up with another her $400, or we've lost the $1,200. Plane tickets don't transfer to different names.