Before I met this guy I was in a serious relationship with a man who was not faithful, dysfunctional, abusive towards me, etc but I was so "in love" and tried to make him happy, even though I never felt good enough. I finally saw sense and ended the relationship four years later. I was then single for another four or five years with a slew of first dates that never went anywhere. And finally I met the "nice guy". Let's call him Chris.
Chris is committed, devoted, loyal, loves me unconditionally, and safe. He will move heaven and Earth for me. I've prayed for a guy like Chris and know nice guys are HARD to find, but the problem I'm having is I don't know if he's the "one". It feels nice to be treated so well after all the pain and misery I have endured from my former dating life, but it's not enough. I am bored and find myself wanting to change him all the time. This isn't fair on Chris and I should be more accepting. The main problem is that we don't have a lot in common, I'm not that sexually attracted to him, and sometimes find him boring. I've struggled with this for so long because I fear that one day like 10 years from now when I'm 40 and still single, I'll think back to when I let a good man get away. And of course, I know the guys I tend to date are no good for me either.
So has anyone overcome this or know what to do in such a predicament?
Our main issue is that we don't have a lot in common. I feel like I have to force him into social situations or travel. The only thing we have in common is motorcycles and we have travelled together on motorbikes. However, I always wanted to be in a relationship where I share the experiences with a partner. I know you can't do everything with your partner but it would be nice if we had something other than motorbikes. I'm not sure what to do because he is a great partner and we both don't want kids (which is a big deal) and hard to find.