||[Oct. 10th, 2016|08:40 pm]
The Question Club
I wonder if you guys could give me some advice, and share your experiences of moving forward after the end of a long-term relationship.|
I broke up with my partner of 11 years back in February. I've moved on in that I no longer feel sad about the breakup, and I would never want to get back together with him (the idea of doing so is hateful to me, even though I don't hate him, and he and I are still friendly). I'm in a good place right now as a single person, and I feel okay with that most of the time. I like getting to know "me," as I am by myself, if that makes sense.
My problem is that friends and family seem to think I should be looking for a new relationship, or at least dating. I just don't want to. I don't feel ready for another relationship, and even though I would like to have one again one day, right now the prospect just isn't appealing.
Here are my specific questions:
If you've ever ended a long relationship, how long was it until you felt ready to date again, or became interested in a new person?
How old were you when the relationship ended? Did you feel like your age meant to kind of had to hurry up a bit about finding someone new?
Do you think it's a bit weird that I'm not interested in dating this many months after the breakup? (I don't think so, but I think some people I know think it is.)
How did you find dating again, once you did start? Did you actively try finding someone or did you just stay open to the possibility, and hope to find someone you clicked with?
Have you tried online dating? How was that?
And of course, please add anything you think I'd find helpful.
In case it matters, I'm a 32-year old woman. I'd been with my SO since I was 21, and I hadn't had any serious relationships before him.
Thank you :)