||[Aug. 6th, 2016|06:52 pm]
The Question Club
I don't necessarily want validation. I am genuinely just looking for the opinions of people who aren't in the situation whether they're in my favor or not. |
Relevant info: My sister has three kids and two of them live with us (my parents, my sister, her boyfriend, two of her sons, and me) but the third comes over on the weekends. The youngest is just a year old and the oldest is 11. I babysit the one year old every single day and sometimes twice a day which is usually something that happens without any warning for me. Sometimes it's just assumed that I'll watch the kids on the weekend and I'm not actually asked. I also don't get anything in return for these countless hours of childcare(over the last year). I feel half taken for granted and half guilty for feeling like spending time with my nephew isn't enough "payment" or appreciation.
Maybe relevant info: She lives rent-free, doesn't work, I do most of the house cleaning, she did have a stroke 3 years ago but has completely recovered, her boyfriend gets driven to and from work by my dad for free, she's in her 30s and her boyfriend is in his 40s.
So my questions are should getting to spend time with my nephew(s) be payment enough? Should regular child-care be free just because it's a relative? Do I just need to suck it up because I'm family and family should help each other out however they can? Any advice on not feeling taken advantage of?
Anything stressful going on in your family that you want to vent about?
EDIT: For more info about myself, I have a chronic illness that has set me back quite a bit so I've been living with my parents for awhile. I work and go to school from home (or take one class on campus during the fall). I don't pay rent because most of my money goes to my medical debt. The minimum I babysit is an hour but it's usually about 3 hours a day, sometimes more.
And thanks for everyone's input it's been really interesting and helpful (even if I'm not at all a confrontational person and will find it very hard to actually say anything to my sister).