June 2nd, 2016


Stuck At Crossroads

I'm stuck at crossroads and feel quite torn, and I need to make a decision. So I'm asking you who are outside my head what would you do if you were in my shoes. Basically the crossroads are:

I've been living in a foreign country for 9 years now, and bought my new place a year ago in a new town. I wish I can say I love living here but it's really tough when you have not made any friends and I don't have family around me. At my former job I didn't fit in and it was a year of agony working with some of the most catty and hostile people I have ever met. I left my contract early and trying to figure out what I'm going to do next. I'm constantly homesick and depressed over here. I've decided to start my own company because I'm sick of working for assholes, but that means I need to commit myself here even longer. There's a market for what I am trying to achieve but not so much back home..
The pros of living over here is that I get to travel a lot and you also get a lot of paid holiday.

And on the flip side of the coin, I have been thinking about moving back home for a while now. I'm actually going back home for 5 weeks to visit friends and family with my boyfriend, so it's making me torn. I'm so excited to be around the people who actually give a shit about me. If I was to move back home that means giving up my place and starting all over again. Also my friends tell me they can't get on the property ladder there because the market is insane, and most of the people I know are working two jobs, so it's not like life will be any easier but at least I will have that support and community around me again. Also, in regards to travelling, I won't be able to travel as much or even at all if I move back and it's my passion in life.

It's a hard decision for me because I really wanted my life to work in this foreign country. I've been here a long time now, and worked so hard and endlessly to create a community around me. I tend to just waste weekends away trying to find something to do. And the people here are not very friendly unlike back home. I constantly feel like an outsider. I'm turning 30 this year and can't help but feel like I've wasted my 20's here feeling miserable, when I should have been out with friends having a great time. I'm sure the message seems pretty obvious to some people, but I am quite torn because I have achieved a lot independently out here. I'm just getting older and miss having something that resembled a social life. It is quite lonely living in a place where you don't fit in. So what would you do?
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Another "try on my shoes" post

I was just offered a postgraduate fellowship in DC for one year only. The thing is I don't know EXACTLY where I'll work until November when you go there for host interviews. I only know I'll be working in my field at the Executive level. I have been living in Seattle for about two years. I like it here a lot, but I'm from Florida, so I really have no permanent commitment to this place, except that I have been working on regional issues for a couple years so I'm a bit emotionally attached. My partner of 4 years lives here with me. We probably will marry eventually, and he followed me from Australia to be with me here. He has a great job and said he would follow me anywhere, but I feel bad that he would once again pack up his life and follow me. I don't want to do long distance again because we did that for a year already, but if it has to happen, it can. He's a fairly skilled professional, so I feel like he can get a job in DC, but since it's only for a year, I don't know if I want him to do that.

I've never lived in DC so don't know what it's like to live there; however, I've visited and some of my friends live there and they love it. I am getting tired of Seattle traffic/cost of living/gentrification/grey weather, but I feel like DC has all of that though....

The other thing is I have a fairly good full time job here on a contract position with the government. I can definitely have that until April 2017, and after that, it just depends on if my boss keeps funding me. It's not a super exciting job, but is a very good starting point. (The Fellowship in DC would start February 2017 and would pay more and is clearly a step "up").

The last thing is if Trump becomes President, there is no way I want to live in DC or possibly the country. There's a chance that this whole Fellowship program might collapse anyway under him, since it's an environmental-related Fellowship.

What would you do? Stay in Seattle or move to DC for a year? If I were single, I probably would go because why not, but my partner is a huge part of my life and wellbeing, so I can't ignore that aspect of my life.

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Question Clubbites, I have a question. There's a thing I want to write about, and include an image. The image is a little disturbing, and I want to keep it so people don't have to see it if they don't want to. If I put it behind an LJ cut it'll show automatically if people are looking at my full LJ. Is there a way to hide it so it doesn't come up right away? Will the Spoilers thing work for me?

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