January 5th, 2016

stock; lilies

burial service for the non-religious.

My father died recently.

As a family we never really went to church, and we weren't a religious family. We opted not to have a funeral service because my dad didn't really want one (he and Mom had thankfully taken care of most of their end-of-life plans in the past few years), but when it comes time for the burial (he wanted to be cremated and have the ashes buried), Mom and I are struggling to figure out what, if anything, to do at the grave, in regards to honoring him. I mean, since we weren't relgious, we don't have a pastor or anything that seems to be customary in these types of services/situations.

So my question is, have you attended or arranged any sort of funeral/burial service for a non-religious person? If so, what did you do to supplement the lack of any sort of church figure or scripture? Or do you have any ideas for us, if you're a non-religious person yourself?
Sorceror's Apprentice

Dealing with financial records

Do you keep your financial documents (bank statements, credit card statements, tax returns, etc.)? For how long?

If you don't keep them, or if you keep them only for a limited time, do you shred them or otherwise destroy them before throwing them away? Or do you just not worry about somebody retrieving them and using them to steal your money and/or identity?

DK/DC: Do you enjoy crosswords or other puzzles?
Geeky Girls

(no subject)

TQC, it's now cold and every winter I deal with cold hands. I work in an office where I am just cold despite it being 72 degrees. Why does that happen since 72 degrees any other time of the year is just fine?

Also. How can I keep my hands/fingertips warm?  My fingertips are still cold even with fingerless gloves.

angel

the heart is a lonely Sleestak

How much time alone do you need, on average, to feel peaceful and comfortable in your own head?

none
4(3.6%)
an hour a week
1(0.9%)
an hour a day
15(13.5%)
two hours a day
31(27.9%)
at least half of each day
24(21.6%)
the day does not contain enough hours
20(18.0%)
I basically never want to be with people
16(14.4%)

What do you do when you have time to yourself?

Read
82(14.2%)
Watch tv
72(12.5%)
Internets
105(18.2%)
Walk
47(8.1%)
Vigorous exercise
18(3.1%)
Chores
58(10.1%)
Cook stuff
45(7.8%)
Projects (not cooking)
51(8.8%)
Call people so I won't be alone
6(1.0%)
Sleep
63(10.9%)
Other
30(5.2%)

If you have insufficient solitude, how do you feel?

Stressed
88(26.1%)
Tired
54(16.0%)
Wired
14(4.2%)
Resentful
53(15.7%)
Crabby
76(22.6%)
Desperate
21(6.2%)
I overeat like whoa
6(1.8%)
I drink a lot
5(1.5%)
IDGAF
4(1.2%)
Ticky
16(4.7%)

DK/DC: which is a harder hit?

BIFF!
5(5.0%)
POW!
45(44.6%)
BLAM!
35(34.7%)
QUNCKKK!
16(15.8%)