So I will start this off by saying I have had terrible luck with dating for the past year of my life. I've been lied to by people over and over and over again and constantly feel like I've been taking advantage of. A coworker and I hit it off and I started seeing him. I knew he had a kid, which would normally be a deal breaker for me because I really don't want kids of my own. But I really liked him so I decided to give him a try anyway. We had two great dates and he came over and I told him very clearly I did not want to sleep with him, and of course he spent the entire night trying to sleep with me anyway. I told him again and again I wanted to wait and after trying very hard to convince me otherwise the guy ends up telling me he is in an open relationship of FIVE YEARS (which he failed to mention before) but the relationship is ending and he will break up with the other person tonight for me and be monogamous with me. Still somehow this is not a deal breaker, but I tell him his kind of just proves my point and he needs to deal with that shit before we sleep together. He texts his girlfriend breaking up with her and I tell him that is not a satisfactory way of dealing with this. He continues to try to sleep with me, to the point I have to repeatedly actually push him off of me multiple times because he keeps unbuttoning my pants when i forcibly tell him i don't want to. And then, this grown 30-year-old man starts crying that I am not attracted to him and he can't understand why I do not want to sleep with him. And after patiently explaining to him I 1. Don't want to have sex because I want to wait a while and 2. I want him to deal with his girlfriend but he won't stop whining or trying to force me to have sex with him because he's "not used to being rejected like that," i am thinking that I shouldn't feel so pressured to have sex with someone. I made him leave my house at 5 am. He stormed out and said about two words to me as he was leaving even though I kept apologizing to him and telling him he shouldn't be taking this personally. And after feeling like i did something wrong.. I realized I didn't at all and I think his little hissy fit may be a deal breaker for me. Ugh, I feel so gross and kind of disrespected.
So TQC.. Even if you really like someone, what are your deal breakers? What was the last big secret you learned about someone you were on an early date with, be it positive or negative.
I'm getting unwanted magazines every month, and it's coming out of my credit card. Whenever I try to call the company to cancel the espn and bloomberg, they argue that I need to pay $500 to terminate the contract, a verbal contract on a recording. I thought about changing the card number or blocking charges but am afraid it will affect my credit or incur a lawsuit. Is this even legal? I know I'm getting goods and services but they are unwanted services. Suggestions?
For those of who have been married/engaged. How did you announce your engagement to your family and friends?
What do you think about announcing it on facebook? What do you think about announcing it on facebook before telling your close family?
I ask this because my cousin (who grew up in the same house as me and is practically my sister) posted about her engagement on facebook before she told anyone in the family. For some reason I find it really funny to find out about it this way because it's like her to not think about how people might take it, but I can see how potentially how this could upset someone. For reference, my parents raised her since she was a little girl and she didn't tell them about either.