May 24th, 2015

piano

Ugh.

So I will start this off by saying I have had terrible luck with dating for the past year of my life. I've been lied to by people over and over and over again and constantly feel like I've been taking advantage of. A coworker and I hit it off and I started seeing him. I knew he had a kid, which would normally be a deal breaker for me because I really don't want kids of my own. But I really liked him so I decided to give him a try anyway. We had two great dates and he came over and I told him very clearly I did not want to sleep with him, and of course he spent the entire night trying to sleep with me anyway. I told him again and again I wanted to wait and after trying very hard to convince me otherwise the guy ends up telling me he is in an open relationship of FIVE YEARS (which he failed to mention before) but the relationship is ending and he will break up with the other person tonight for me and be monogamous with me. Still somehow this is not a deal breaker, but I tell him his kind of just proves my point and he needs to deal with that shit before we sleep together. He texts his girlfriend breaking up with her and I tell him that is not a satisfactory way of dealing with this. He continues to try to sleep with me, to the point I have to repeatedly actually push him off of me multiple times because he keeps unbuttoning my pants when i forcibly tell him i don't want to. And then, this grown 30-year-old man starts crying that I am not attracted to him and he can't understand why I do not want to sleep with him. And after patiently explaining to him I 1. Don't want to have sex because I want to wait a while and 2. I want him to deal with his girlfriend but he won't stop whining or trying to force me to have sex with him because he's "not used to being rejected like that," i am thinking that I shouldn't feel so pressured to have sex with someone. I made him leave my house at 5 am. He stormed out and said about two words to me as he was leaving even though I kept apologizing to him and telling him he shouldn't be taking this personally. And after feeling like i did something wrong.. I realized I didn't at all and I think his little hissy fit may be a deal breaker for me. Ugh, I feel so gross and kind of disrespected.

So TQC.. Even if you really like someone, what are your deal breakers? What was the last big secret you learned about someone you were on an early date with, be it positive or negative.
sammy

poll for poll sake

Which of these apply to you?

I am OCD neat
16(4.3%)
I am OCD messy
14(3.8%)
I am a people person
14(3.8%)
I am a hermit
45(12.1%)
I like big butts and I cannot lie...
20(5.4%)
I like hot weather
26(7.0%)
I like cold weather
29(7.8%)
I can't make up my mind
35(9.4%)
I am decisive
17(4.6%)
I am generous
39(10.5%)
I am stingy
10(2.7%)
I am thrifty/frugal
32(8.6%)
I spend too much/wasteful
28(7.5%)
I like change
24(6.4%)
I am happy to be stagnant
24(6.4%)
RBF

bikini body

My coworker's college-age daughter has been doing Insanity or P90X or something in her basement every night because, she told her mom, she wants to have a "bikini body."

Do you have a bikini body?

yes
22(25.3%)
no
46(52.9%)
yes, if you mean "roughly the size and shape of the Bikini Atoll"
19(21.8%)

If you answered "no"--are you interested in acquiring a bikini body?

definitely
9(11.4%)
no
27(34.2%)
if fairy godmother makes it happen
35(44.3%)
I am interested in making the acquaintance of somebody in a bikini
8(10.1%)

MyFitnessPal says I should eat only 1200 calories a day if I want to achieve a bikini body. Does that seem like enough food?

yes
16(15.5%)
no
44(42.7%)
yes, enough for an elderly Chihuahua
29(28.2%)
it's way too much
1(1.0%)
I'm just here for the ticky
13(12.6%)

How many beers can I drink daily and still have my bikini body?

1
12(12.5%)
2
5(5.2%)
3
1(1.0%)
6
5(5.2%)
infinity
19(19.8%)
NO BEERS EVAR
37(38.5%)
ticky
17(17.7%)
Slytherin Binny

(no subject)

Is it okay to tell someone else's story if the person you're telling doesn't know, and will likely never meet, the person the story is about?

Does it matter how personal?
Would it be more or less okay if you didn't include a name?

For instance "Carol at work is getting a divorce." vs "Someone I know had a cousin who was murdered."

Magazine subscription fraud

I'm getting unwanted magazines every month, and it's coming out of my credit card. Whenever I try to call the company to cancel the espn and bloomberg, they argue that I need to pay $500 to terminate the contract, a verbal contract on a recording. I thought about changing the card number or blocking charges but am afraid it will affect my credit or incur a lawsuit. Is this even legal? I know I'm getting goods and services but they are unwanted services. Suggestions?

Meeko

(no subject)

For those of who have been married/engaged. How did you announce your engagement to your family and friends?

What do you think about announcing it on facebook?
What do you think about announcing it on facebook before telling your close family?

I ask this because my cousin (who grew up in the same house as me and is practically my sister) posted about her engagement on facebook before she told anyone in the family. For some reason I find it really funny to find out about it this way because it's like her to not think about how people might take it, but I can see how potentially how this could upset someone. For reference, my parents raised her since she was a little girl and she didn't tell them about either.