October 9th, 2014

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How Can You Tell If Someone is Jealous of You?!

I don't like judging people or put up conclusions right away without knowning all the facts. Whenever I meet someone and they find out more about me they start avoiding me. I like to know the whole thing and always give them another chance and think of excuses for them even though sometimes it just doesn't seem to be the case.

I looked up in google and found signs that show people who are jealous of you, some of them apply but still I want to ask here with, you know, interactive people and not just reading. I'll write about 2 stories that happened with me:

First, met the girl online and we were talking about language learning. She was saying all what she knows and how she studied outside. I was just listening when she asked I told her what I know, which was pretty near to hers except mine was self-teach, she started to treat me coldly with a bit of rudeness till she finally went away. I thought maybe she just didn't want to.

Second, a girl at work. She is beautiful and smart and always talks with our boss. When I got to be the secretary to substitute the one who was on vaccation, naturally I was the one who would talk with him on the go since we have work to do. I used to get to his office a lot, she wouldn't come in and talk with him outside the department till she finally asked me "when will you stop being here?!" I didn't explain her deeds but it seemed odd to ask that question. She'll find out sooner or later when I'll be out, no?!

These are just two, there are number of them but I thought I'll ask with these. Seems like whenever they find more about me they avoid me, be rude at some points and in some cases discourage me. Does that count as they are jealous?! And what can I do about it?!

Note: I have many friends online and offline who are totally okay with my presentation and we're the best, I treated those who I assumed were jealous from me the same way but they turned off. They are few compared to the ones who know me and not every single person I met moved away! Also, I'm a nerd girl with brain which I think is not attractive in any means in a world where people look up for beauty, appearance and fame. I'm asking this question to know what turns people off & how to develop myself.

PS. Considering cultures difference, self-teach isn't valued or acknowledged much here where I live.
What Would Wonder Woman Do

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Hi.

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What do you suggest? Crying and sleeping will probably get tiresome after a few hours...

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