|Relationships and Mental Health?
||[Sep. 18th, 2014|12:49 pm]
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My boyfriend has an anxiety disorder. It is triggered by work, and his stress at work (he works for a family business). I also have an anxiety disorder (a lot less serious) that is triggered by relationship insecurities, thanks to my past emotionally manipulative and abusive partner.
He is on medication at the moment (wellbutrin and something else which I forget, it is a mood stabiliser), and he doesn't see a therapist (although he has in the past). I want to encourage him to see a therapist again, but when I bring it up he shuts me down, tells me he doesn't want to talk about it.
We had plans for me to go over to his house tonight, and hang out, but he texted me this morning and said his day was going horrible, and that it was better if I don't come over tonight, that he needs alone time, that he doesn't want to talk about it so don't ask. When I told him that I was around if he wanted to talk about it later,if there was anything I can do for him, he said I don't ever want to talk about it, so don't ever ask, and to just leave him alone.
I don't know what to do. I want to be supportive, and be there for him, but I don't know what to do. I feel at a loss. I am moving into his house next weekend (a good chunk of my stuff is already there), and with that coming up I want to especially make sure that I am respecting his wishes and giving him the space he needs.
Any advice or suggestions, particularly from those who have been in our situation?