I have been invited to my cousin’s wedding next month, and I’m on the fence about whether I should go…
Reasons in favor of going to the wedding:
My cousin is family and I feel obligated.
I don’t see the rest of my family (including my parents, siblings, and grandfather) very often, and this is a rare occasion when they will all be together. My grandfather is pretty old and I don’t know how much longer he’ll be around.
I’m not sure I will be able to make it home for the holidays, so if I go to the wedding, it might fulfill my family-visiting obligation quota for the year. Traveling will be a lot cheaper and easier now than it will be during the holidays.
Reasons for not going to the wedding:
It would cost over $200 and 16 hours (round trip) to travel to the wedding.
I hate going to weddings.
I have never been very close with this cousin; in fact, she sat next to me at the reception of another cousin’s wedding a few months ago and didn’t say a word to me or introduce me to her fiancé. I doubt she would notice or care about my absence or presence at her wedding.
If I don’t go, I’ll still send a nice gift, and as a bonus, my cousin won’t have to pay for my meal.
I have a job with a crazy schedule, so I can use that as an excuse for why I can’t go (even though I can most likely get out of it if necessary).
My parents will have a full house due to all of my siblings and their significant others staying there, plus my grandfather, and I will have to sleep on the couch if I go.
When I was in college, I got a job in a little laundromat. One of my jobs was to wash, dry and fold laundry that customers dropped off. I was shocked to learn that I had been folding laundry ALL WRONG. ( Collapse )