August 5th, 2014


Does any of you ever had a stalker?

I haven't ever met anyone else with this problem.

I had a bf who followed me everywhere, he used to go to work and make scenes out of jealousy  and threatened me.

When I finally broke up with him he told me that I had to ask him to take me back because that was how we would end anyway.  he started being down right creepy, used to be anywhere, from work to the grocery store, he more than once signed for packages sent to my address when I wasn't home. once he parked outside my house for two days after I refused to talk to him, he used to come every now and then and peek inside through windows. he used to leave presents for me at the door or knock and try to give me the presents directly.

It stopped when a friend spent a week at my house and I had a restraining order, still every now and then I see him near my house, even if he lives over an hour away or more.
I'm asking because today I saw him in my block again. he was sitting on my lawn and when I finally parked he wasn't there anymore, my neighbor said he's been there the entire day and now I'm freaked out.

Is there a way to deal with this? that doesn't includes police? (because seriously I've been said that unless he attempts to get into my house they can't help.) you think direct violence would work?
tom smile

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Other than sites like expedia/priceline, is there any other way of getting an amazing hotel room in Las Vegas for a cheap price?

I'll be in LA next month and am debating staying in the Santa Monica area or the Manhattan Beach area. Any input from people who've been there? Has anyone booked anything through What was your experience?

Even though I was born in California I know almost nothing about the LA area. Any input for off the beaten path things to do in the area? So far the only thing on my list is to visit the cupcake ATM so I'm open to suggestions!

TIA. :-)
Coke can

Worst in the room

When was the last time you were the worst person in the room, and how did you get past that feeling of worthlessness and not give up?

I'm on a fresh meat course for roller derby, and the other people on my course are WAY better than me. I'm really struggling with the fact that I am the worst person in the room. I'm used to there being at least one other person who is worse than me so I can at least think in my head "Well, I could be worse, I could be them". Which I know, is not a very nice thought, but still, it has helped me get better in the past at stuff. Whereas now, I'm finding it really difficult to motivate myself because everyone is so much drastically better than me.

What are the ways that you motivate yourself to do something you're really shit at?

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So I take a writing class. my writing class is Tuesday evenings, 6:00-9 during the year.

I also take a HEMA/sword class, which I started this summer and am absolutely in love with. the sword classes are 1-3 times a week, 7-8 or 8:30. I am already going every Friday and will work my way up to Saturday (which is sparring). The other class is Tuesday, at the same time as the writing class.

Alas, once-a-week for HEMA isn't really enough practice; I'm practicing at home but it's not the same thing as when you are in the studio. I am enjoying HEMA so much that I'd almost rather continue with that than the writing class, but if I don't go to the writing class I might never actually get my novel done. Fall registration for writing hasn't started yet so right now the decision is totally up to me, no sunk costs or anything like that. What would you do?

I have a full membership for HEMA class, which means that I can sign up for any class I want as long as there's space. It works out to be cheaper than the writing class, but the difference isn't so big as to, well, make a difference.