||[Apr. 7th, 2014|04:00 pm]
The Question Club
I started a new job three weeks ago and I have been enjoying it so far; I have received good feedback on the work I've done and I feel fairly on top of it all. However, I unfortunately got a chest infection at the exact time of starting and so have spent the first three weeks at my new job coughing and wheezing.|
Along with working full-time I study for a degree part-time, and as it is Easter I have been incredibly busy with church and singing in concerts... Oh and I'm moving house next week so I am VERY stressed with everything. I would probably be able to cope with all of this if it weren't for the fact that I'm unwell and always tired due to loss of sleep - the coughing is worse at night and I often have to sit up in bed to clear my lungs.
Anyway, so I was feeling stressed and ill and generally down at work today, and got a little teary at my desk. I went to the loo for a quick cry, and when I got back my manager called me into her office to send me home. I apologised and said that I was just a little unwell but I was fine to work, and she said 'well it's probably quite awkward for other people having to see you cry. Also I've noticed that often when you come in in the morning you sit down and begin working without saying hello to everyone in the office. We like to employ people who fit in, so I'm wondering if you're not coping.'
This comment threw me a lot. I know I'm not on my best form at the moment but I have been friendly and chatty, and I thought that I got on well with everyone. She confirmed that the work I was doing was absolutely fine - but then I would have expected and welcomed feedback on my work performance, not on my personality. She didn't say I was rude or dismissive, only that I didn't often look happy and didn't say hello in the mornings.
I'm not really sure what to do now as I have never had a problem like this before in social/working situations, and I was not aware of any problems before this. I am still in my probation period so I am TERRIFIED that she is going to fire me now, which obviously is not helping with stress levels.
What would you do in my situation? Do you think that my manager is being unfair by mentioning this, or was it a bit stupid of me to cry at work?
Sorry for the long post, and thanks in advance.