recently, my mom started dieting and exercising so she can lose weight. she's doing great. this morning, she was showing me how loose all of her clothes are, and it's a big difference. but then she weighed herself, and it turns out that the lbs aren't really coming off at all. apparently she's barely lost anything.
she's really upset, and i'm really confused. how is this possible, and why is it happening? has this ever happened to anyone else? :( i feel bad for her
In example, you were needing something good to happen, the good thing happens, and while you want to be so happy and relieved, there are other life situations going on that make you feel like celebrating is just not an option.
If you've been in this situation, how did you deal with it?
I'll post my answer in the comments.
DK/DC/GRUMPY CAT? What's on your mind at the moment?
infinite chocolate bar
have I been doing it wrong all this time?
A man should not hit a woman. However, there may be exceptions. In which of these situations would it be understandable if a man hits a woman?
In which situations is it acceptable (by social standards) for a woman to hit a man?
If you were in the park and you saw a skinny-ish guy punching some girl of equal stature and girth, what would you do? She's holding up her hands, trying to defend herself, badly. They're both 20something hipsters
If you were in the park and you saw a girl of average physique punching some guy of equal physique, what would you do? He's holding up his hands, trying to defend himself, badly. They're both 20something hipsters
How should I approach her to try to make friends?
Should I wait until we meet outside again and ask her if she wants to come over for some wine?
Or should I knock on her door and pretend I need something to get the conversation going? Problem being, I'm a bad liar.
What would you do?
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EDIT FOR CONTEXT:
I was having a conversation with a friend recently about the experiences I had at two different elementary schools. In school A, I and most of my peers engaged in school fights regularly. When you had a problem with someone, you were open and honest about your dislike for each other, and if things escalated you might get into a fight with the other person at some point. This was true for guys and girls.
In school B, people rarely expressed their dislike for one another openly. You would talk to your friends about the other person and how much you disliked them, and you'd either avoid the person, act passive-aggressively, or in some cases, be friendly to them to preserve harmony. Getting into a fight with someone was a huge deal that would get you suspended.
In my opinion, I much preferred going to school A. I feel like even though there could be a distinct lack of harmony, it was much more of a relief to be able to express your feelings and not feel bad about it. And strangely, the fights would usually end the problem right there. I remember becoming friends with girls that I've slapped in the face! School B was actually much harder to deal with because you wouldn't know who to trust or who was truly your friend and the passive-aggression wound up being more psychologically wearisome due to the hot-n-coldness of it. Oddly, I practically pined for the days when we could all just yell at each other and be done with it.
And yes, I understand that it's school, which is much different from adult life but it made think about how a lot of social rules about conflict and violence seem...distorted? It seems like people are extremely wary of violence (understandably so) but I do wonder if having a culture that's a bit more accepting of it would be psychologically healthier in some ways?
As a disclaimer, I understand completely that we can't and shouldn't go around beating the crap out of anyone we don't like. However, violence is an expression of a valid emotion--anger. And maybe it would be good for some to just be fought out (in all seriousness).
SECOND EDIT FOR CONTEXT:
And sorry, I just realized that 'abuse' was really not the correct term to use. I guess I should have been more clear from the get-go. I'm not sure of a more succinct/single word to describe it but see the above description for a better description of what I meant.
Will you make up a band name and tell me what kind of music they make?
Say you have a problem with your apartment and call the landlord, who offers to take care of it personally rather than hire someone - which of these issues would you trust your landlord to fix for you? If you have no landlord, feel free to answer based on landlords you've had in the past.
A good friend has a sudden emergency and must go away for a week. They ask you to watch their pet, since they are having trouble finding anyone else to do it. Which of these would you be willing to pet sit for a week or so?
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dk/dc? do u watch reality tv?
- kidney beans
- sour cream
- starburst candies
Feel free to post other ingredient scenarios for people to respond too!
just a free for all.