So I've been on 3.5 dates (3.5 because one date was only an hour and a half coffee meet up whereas the other 3 were activities where we spent 4+ hours together) with a guy. I still feel uncertainty in regards to how I feel about him. We get along, conversation flows pretty well, based on what I've gathered so far, he's sane, smart, has a good career that he's passionate about, etc.
But if I'm feeling uncertainty at this point, does it mean that I'm just not feeling it? I'm confused.
What would you do/ how would you feel if your coworkers called you a "suck up"?
I'm at a fairly new job and me and my new manager have really it it off. If it matters, I'm a 30 something woman and he's a 50 something man. It's purely a friendship (I think he may be gay), but we often sit and talk in his office about work and our lives, or we can be found walking around laughing. Just generally, friendly things. I think he's great as a manager and as a person!
I knew the girls I work with (and have lunch with everyday) felt that I was a suck up, but today they said it, though not angrily. Still, I told them I was sure they thought that, but that I'm just friendly and he's my friend.
So people of the internet, I'm obviously bothered to some extent. To me, being called a suck up, it makes me feel like I'm not being friendly, doing simple things for him, joking around, out of friendship, but for some sneaky or self purposing reason.