||[Sep. 23rd, 2012|06:03 pm]
The Question Club
Hello TQC, |
It's been a while, but I felt like I had a question that only a group of smart strangers could tackle. No pressure though, I know it's one of those blurry relationship ones. But ANY of your lovely advice or criticism will do be good.
Here's the deal: I've been in a fantastic relationship with my boyfriend since I started college. 18 years old. He was 19. We've grown together and now are pursuing different careers in a bigger city. After graduation, we lived apart for a year, pursuing these different interests, which was hard, but great that it was a possibility.
Now, we're ending a summer of living together for the first time (with two other roommates, friends). He's about to leave for the winter to work at his seasonal job a state away. And I'm questioning everything for no reason in particular.
For me, we're at this point where a lot of folks expect us to follow that natural path...live together for a while longer, get married, etc. Which is suuuuper scary to me. I'm 23! I'm young! I don't want to have my life already laid out in front of me, predictable. I'm ready for a few more question marks before everything is set in stone.
I love everything about my boyfriend. He's sweet, smart, funny, going places, yadda yadda. But I feel like we owe it to each other to explore the world more (and maybe other relationships) before shit gets real. Honestly, it's not even about other guys. It's about me, being an independent lady doing whatever I'd like. I felt like I haven't been an adult on my own without him by my side.
Is that horrible? Can I want this? He never questions this stuff, and I do. Which makes me feel like a terrible gal. Ugh. Anyway. He's about to move out and I'm honestly thinking, should I end it before it's too far down the road and I feel like I owe him my future? Dish yer advice, TQC, if you've got the time.