April 20th, 2012

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sorry all i use this comm for is relationship advice. but so i finally hung out with the guy i hooked up with last weekend. this is a guy i really like. we watched a movie and cuddled, it took a while but he stroked my arm. almost right after the movie was done, however, his roommate came home. we ended up just playing video games the three of us until about midnight when i decided to go home. he walked me to the door and watched me go downstairs.

what bothers me is that we didn't kiss the entire time i was there. we kissed a lot when we hooked up. does this mean he's not interested? should i try to text him again or wait and see if he texts me? i was the one who initiated this date. again, we only have a few weeks before school ends. btw he's an extremely quiet guy, really hard to read.

dk/dc: would you rather be a cowboy or a samurai?

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Does anyone know of any good online resources or forums for those with mental illness, particularly with those on the psychotic spectrum? Some active livejournal groups would be a plus.

I'm not trying to capitalize on whatever I have, I'm just trying to find a place where I could fit in better.
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Yesterday at work (I'm a cashier at a small shop) a big middle-aged Native American guy came up to the register to buy some beer. I greeted him cheerfully and he looked at me and said confidently, "In your life, you've had two kids."

I asked him to repeat himself because I wasn't sure I'd heard correctly, and then I said, "No, sorry, I don't have any kids at all."

He looked shocked and said, "Well why not?"

I was pretty confused at this point. I'm 23, though I look older, and I have been getting more "So do you have kids?" questions aimed at me lately. Anyway, I told him I only got married last year (to which he responded with a derisive snort) and also that I had a couple years of school left, which seemed to satisfy him.

I'm kind of bummed I didn't have the presence of mind to play along. Oh my gosh, how did you know? Guess their names, guess their names -- CINDY AND MITCHELL, YOU'RE RIGHT! How do you DO that??

So --
What on earth made him think I'd had two kids? / Why did he think it appropriate to tell me how many imaginary kids I'd had?
Tell me a funny work story?
  • lutine

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If I grind my teeth really badly at night (probably due to stress), do you think that taking a Xanax before bed would help?

(I'm going to get a mouth guard to protect my teeth, but that won't help the headaches/sore jaw/waking up still exhausted.)

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What would you prefer to have for breakfast?

Full English Breakfast, the works
Stack of pancakes, type of your choice
Belgian waffles
Fast food breakfast sandwhich
Omlette with fresh veggies
Bowl of oatmeal, toppings of your choice
Bowl of cold cereal w/ milk
Bagel w/ topping of your choice
Toast with Jam
Yogurt, yogurt parfait, etc
Fruit salad
Eggs with bacon, sausage, etc.

Who would you rather go out for breakfast with

Your parents
Your kids
Just you and your SO
A close friend
A co-worker
A sibling or cousin
A stranger you just met
Would prefer to breakfast alone
Patrick Wolf - The Magic Position

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1. I may be needing to make a flight to Germany in August. I won't know though, until a month in advance or so (hopefully). The plane tickets for a month or two from now are a good deal more expensive than i was expecting- $1300+ for a one-way. I know that there's certain days of the week that the tickets tend to be less expensive. What are those days? Also, any other tips for finding cheap(er) flights? Not too cheap though, this'll be a long flight.

2. I also may be in the market for a new laptop. I'm completely oblivious on what laptops are good and what aren't. I'm going to be using it for school-related things, mostly, and i don't want to spend a whole ton of money. I suppose a camera would be nice and i'm guessing USB ports are standard. A laptop that i could play the Sims 2 on would be amazing, but it obviously would not be a dealbreaker if the laptop couldn't handle it. It doesn't matter if it's a Mac, Windows, or whatever. Any suggestions/recommendations?

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How weird exactly is it, on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being "eh, no big deal", and 10 being "omgwtfbbq creepy", that my landlady does my laundry and the laundry of my housemates?

She's an elderly but spry lady who rents out the non-master bedrooms of her home. If that helps.

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When you do your laundry, do you wash items right-side out? Or wrong-side out?

Why/why not?

I realized that I wash my kids clothing right-side out because typically there are misc. food stains/dirt/etc on the front of their clothes.

But I wash my own items inside out because I sweat and wear deodorant and need to clean that shit up directly man.

Do you use fabric softener? Dryer sheets?

Ladies have you ever leaned into a spin cycle?

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For those who live in or have been to Chicago or are experienced with the area:

How easy is it to use the buses and trains there? I heard you could get a one day pass and have unlimited rides that day but I'm unsure where to get it.

We want to go to four places and I'm trying to figure out how to work this, we don't know how to use buses or trains because we don't have them where we come from and we are travel inexperienced.

The places are Navy Pier, Millenium Park, Shedd Aquarium, and Gino's East (the one on Wells St.)

Any other tips/experiences that might be helpful for me to know?

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Are you fluent in any languages other than your native one?
How old were you when you learnt?
How long did it take you?
Are you actively learning any languages now?

I'm teaching myself Dutch and am loving it.

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TQC, I'm pretty much living by myself for the next ten days since my dad is on vacation with his boyfriend. Apart from taking care of my grandma, which doesn't take up too much active time but does take up a lot of passive time since I can't really go out after work because I need to be home and keep an eye on her, what should I do? I'm going to be cooking, reading, hanging out with my SO and keeping the house cleanish, but that only takes up so much time. I also don't really do well with living by myself since I get lonely and restless without anyone else physically present. I should spend my time working on my current writing project, y/n? Got any books you absolutely loved and feel that I should read?
Mark with girl
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Pet owners of TQC: When do you feed your pet(s) and when do they eat? 

I've become quite confused with my 60 pound dog of 1.5 years. Over the last 6 months she will only eat her food between about 1am-5am. I fill her food bowl at about 8am every morning, and while she has clear access to the food all day, she won't eat until the middle of the night. My dog doesn't have bathroom problems, so it works fine. I just don't know why she does it. She is active during most of the day.

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I'm about to email my grad school advisor for the first time. What do I need to be sure to tell her? I'm entering the library science program at Indiana University, if that matters. 

Alternately, what's your advice for a future grad student?

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Let's say your sibling were dating your best friend. One day your sibling tells you that they have cheated on their partner. They feel terrbly guilty and begs you not to tell your friend. What do you do?
Tell your friend? Force your sibling to tell them? Keep quiet?  Something else entirely?

Edit Changed you're to your. I cant belive I made such a stupid grammatic error.

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Have you ever had a job that you just absolutely SUCKED at, no matter how hard you tried?

Where are your pets right now?

Because mine is draped across my neck under my chin purring like a motor boat.

Apartment questions!

Hey TQC! A couple weeks ago, I officially enrolled in a master's program at George Washington University, and also accepted a job offer there. Yay! Life is good. The only problem? I don't have anywhere to live yet. I'll be getting my Bachelor's in May, and this will be the first time I've lived in an apartment that wasn't covered under university housing. To further complicate things, I live in Boston and thus cannot be down in DC to physically look at apartments. My parents are concerned about me living too far off campus because not everywhere in DC is super safe (even though I've lived in Boston for the past 4 years...) and I'm currently grappling with a couple questions regarding the apartment search process. HELP ME, OH GREAT AND WONDERFUL TQC!

1. Should I aim to get an apartment by myself or have roommates? I wouldn't mind having a studio in GW's grad student housing and it would probably be cheaper, but I don't know if it would make me more anti-social. I have some issues with social anxiety that are (ironically) helped sometimes when I have a roommate- if I know they're out doing things, it motivates me to get out myself and interact with people. On the other hand, I've heard so many horror stories about rooming with people that you don't know, so I'm not so sure. (I'd be rooming with another grad student, probably one in my program). There's also the kitchen issue, which I address below.

2. A girl from my program has expressed interest in living with me. We've been emailing back and forth and are scheduled to Skype/talk on the phone tomorrow. We'd be moving in at around the same time, and she seems really nice so far. She does have a (small) dog, though, and while I love dogs this might make our search harder/force us to look at more expensive places. I feel bad saying no just because of the dog thing. Should I still consider living with her? Am I throwing away a good opportunity if I say no? I don't want to leave her hanging.

3. GW does offer some graduate student housing for a pretty decent amount- however, the rooms are basically converted hotel rooms and they don't all have kitchens (there's one on every other floor, I believe). Would taking GW up on the housing be a smart move, or a downgrade from what I'm used to?

4. Do you have any tips about finding an apartment/apartment hunting in DC specifically?

Thanks so much!

Edited to clarify some stuff on the first question.