||[Apr. 17th, 2012|11:22 pm]
The Question Club
I developed feelings for a close friend of mine over the summer, but I didn't tell her for various reasons... I didn't want to come out of the closet (I'm bisexual) despite her doing so with me, she liked someone else, and I was moving to a different city for university in a few months. I thought I would be able to move on.
... But I didn't, so I finally decided to admit my feelings to her a few days ago when I came home to visit... And she feels the same way! Despite this, she's still hesitant about dating me, which I understand. This was a huge revelation for her to take in and there are a lot of things to consider, such as distance (it's only about an hour and a half away, but still), both of us being busy with school (both of us are taking rigorous course loads and she's applying to medical school), and most importantly, she doesn't want to go out with me while she has feelings for someone else. Fair enough.
This "someone else" is her TA, and a big reason why it took me so long to tell her the way I felt. I was afraid I wouldn't be able to compete with him, especially since she likes him more than she likes anyone else. She said she's unsure of what she wants to do with either of us, and then went on to say she DEFINITELY wants to ask him out at the end of the semester.
... Maybe I'm looking too far into it, but isn't that something like a rejection, TQC? If he goes out with her and they end up together, I'm obviously screwed. If he goes out with her and they don't work out, or if he says no and she decides to go out with me after the fact, then won't I just be a second choice? How long should I wait for her to get over him in that case? How long should I wait for her to decide?