|Confused and need advice.....
||[Feb. 17th, 2012|10:50 am]
The Question Club
I am in a position where I don't really know anyone in real life who I can talk to about this, so I hope some of you will respond.
I am a woman in my mid-twenties and I am not sure if I have a problem relating to self esteem issues or something else. See, I have been self conscious about my weight since I was in high school. I very rarely date. However, I don't know anymore whether I date so little because I'm afraid I'll get rejected ( which is true) or if I just don't have much of a sex drive at all (I have been interested romantically before, but with no kind of sexy action, maybe my sex drive gave up and moved out?)
I have always, always wanted to date, fall in love, get married and have kids and a family. But if I really am not interested in sex, then that would make me asexual, which would probably make all of the above difficult to achieve, right? And it's scary to think about it. Either way, I am probably going to have a hard time getting that future, whether it's from lack of dating and sex due to self esteem issues or asexuality or what.
How do I find out which of the above issues is the one I have? And once I find out, is there a good way to resolve it, so I can move forward with the my life and my goals? Does anyone here have body issues that have led to something similar? Or is anyone asexual who can help me find out if I am, or if it's in my head? I want to talk to a counselor, but I can't afford one...