||[Nov. 29th, 2011|09:39 am]
The Question Club
I have a problem of sorts, I think. I don't get to meet guys with my job, and there are hardly any guys in my classes, so I just don't meet them often. However, I'd like to try out dating, and I decided OK Cupid would work. After all, meeting new people is what I want.
When I go on "dates" I feel like after two or three dates, the guys get more attached than I do. This is probably because it takes me a long time to feel comfortable with a person (as either a friend or more) and after only meeting them a couple of times I basically am totally neutral toward them. By the time I would have begun to reciprocate any interest at all, the guy seems to give up and move on, his flowery "oh, you're wonderful/perfect" stage having run it's course in a week.
Is this normal? What do I do? Is there something wrong with me that I can't feel romantic attachment after a few weeks of super casual dating?( It's so casual, I don't even want to kiss these guys yet - I don't know them!) Should I just kiss these guys (to encourage them) even if I don't know them well enough to like them yet? I'd much rather get to now a guy by hanging out and then date, but I don't really have that option right now.