|on sexual etiquette
||[Sep. 25th, 2011|10:26 am]
The Question Club
This doesn't particularly relate to my life right now, but I find it interesting.|
- Conceptually, where do you draw the line between "friends with benefits" and "seeing each other/ (casually) dating"?
I tend to call it "friends with benefits" unless there's the distinct possibility / intention / desire between the two people that they will end up dating each other exclusively.
- If you've been flirting with someone and you end up having sex (or making out, etc.), do you tend to assume that you are "seeing" each other or that you're "friends with benefits"?
I assume FWB unless specifically stated otherwise, and I label it as such.
- What level of affection do you prefer in a FWB / someone you're sleeping with?
This question is particularly interesting to me because I actually prefer a fair amount of affection in these situations (cuddling while sleeping, etc.) - on the other hand, I've heard people describe FWB as ONLY sex with your friend, and affection as being completely unnecessary/unwanted.
- Faux pas while dating someone are generally understood by most people; what do you consider to be faux pas/ rude/ undesirable in a FWB situation?
I would find it rude if you're in an intimate context with them and they start talking about/ alluding to someone else they're currently fucking/interested in. I would also find it inconsiderate if they decide to a) not be your friend anymore, or b) not be your fuck-buddy anymore without any sort of explanation. On the other hand, I also consider it undesirable for the person in question to do things like buy you presents or dinner, or hold your hand in public, because then it becomes confusing and you wonder if they actually want to date you.