|how do you tackle insecurities, seriously(and non srs)
||[Mar. 30th, 2011|04:18 pm]
The Question Club
if i'm as "hot" and "attractive" as my guy friends and random dudes say i am, why am i single, or at least never getting asked out/booty called?|
and more importantly, why is it such a source of self doubt for me?
i don't actually mind being single, i like it most of the time. maybe it's because i haven't been in one, but relationships seem suffocating. but the fact that no one ever asks me out or to hang out or asks for my number really bothers me. i see all my friends find people and relationships and just in general get validated but i rarely get any kind of attention or even a "hey, baby" and it really bothers me! i really feel that i'm totally unattractive and completely unappealing and i don't like it at all. i don't need a boyfriend, i just need to feel good about myself. but it's really exhausting being the only one telling me i'm good enough, i'm smart enough and doggonit,
people boys like me!
and yes, i get that confidence is attractive, but i am pretty confident. i'm actually a bit full of myself. it's like, i feel like i'm good enough, i feel like i'm attractive, and i walk around like i am. but i have this weird combination of thinking i'm the greatest, most awesomest person, while feeling that no one is going to agree with me.
what can i do? is this something to bring up with my therapist? i don't feel like it's something therapy can really help, and what is a middle aged dude going to know about being an insecure, 20-something girl, anyway?