|I need your help, TQC
||[Jan. 7th, 2011|07:05 pm]
The Question Club
I just got asked out by someone on my Facebook. I need a way to back out of this delicately, unless you feel I should go out with her and her friends tonight.|
I've only met Christy once, and I could tell she was a little interested in me. She added me on Facebook that same night and promptly started to send me some messages via FB about the possibility that she may know my brother. I replied via message and it led to a flurry of 10+ exchanges, which was getting a little annoying, so I just said that we should just chat in FB if we're going to be exchanging this much information. Her response: I can't right now, but let's schedule it for tomorrow! In essence, she was arranging a 'chat date'. I couldn't make our little 'date' so she tried the next night and the night after before realizing I don't spend a lot of time on the computer between 7-10pm. I made no attempt to treat this like a 'date' but just two people who may or may not be on the computer at the same time using the same social program.
While she is cute enough and very smart, I felt there were a few things that wouldn't work out. She's a recovering boozer, though I'm not sure if it's through AA or just her own self restraint. Her lack of boozing has turned her into a heavy smoker, which she was going to quit cold turkey on New Year's, so I'm guessing the ban is in effect. One of her main beefs with the booze was that it sort of made her into a loose woman and that didn't sit well with her, I guess. And she's a single mom who seems to be singlemindedly committed to land some guy, as she had been on one date a couple days before and has been e-flirting with some guy on her fB who she met through another guy on her FB, who she had e-flirted with a few weeks before him, and she wasted no time getting a hold of me. I personally would prefer the booze, smoke and sex, but respect anyone trying to better themselves. However, cutting back on so much so fast may be a little offbalancing and she seems to be a little erratic and too direct and I'm getting this desperation vibe from her, and to be honest, I'm not entirely sure about the single mom thing.
At the very least, I'd want to get to know her a bit more first without being put into a semi-romantic situation, as I know more about her drawbacks than her assets. Tonight, out of the blue, she chatted me up on FB and suddenly asked if I wanted to see Black Swan tonight with her and her friends. Not really feeling up for that, I told her my plans for tonight were up in the air and I might be able to attend but wasn't sure yet. I gave her my cell phone # and told her to text me when the gang was about to assemble, fully planning to veto to turn her down, but I can't think of a good lie about why I can't make it. I'm not entirely sure why I gave her my number, but morbid curiosity about what she'll do with it may be part of it and I got no better offers lately.
So, that's all I got so far
Should I go out with her tonight, or get to know her a little first?
If I shouldn't go out with her, give me a good lie to tell when she texts me