|validating my friend.
||[Aug. 3rd, 2010|11:16 am]
The Question Club
|||||emarosa- the past should stay dead||]|
I'm gonna try and word this question best I can without needing the whole story.
If someone stays at home (whether to be a spouse that stays home w/ the kids, or a room mate who is out of a job/not working for the summer/basically someone who doesn't pay rent or other stuff) and so they take over the 'chores' as their contribution for the house hold, is there a line between covering the chores (dishes, laundry, vaccuming, taking out the trash, etc) and picking up after people? Or since they're at home so they have the time, keeping the place clean regaurdless is their 'job'? Or shold other people living there pitch in on chores every so often?
in case that wasn't clear/you want the story for more insight:
My friend lives with her husband, and for the summer are letting both his brother and her best friend stay with them to save a little money for the summer (end of april-mid september, they pay $150 rent each a month, part of utilities, and their own food). She's not in school for the summer and is just hanging out at home- so she's taken over the chores (before hand it was split pretty evenly with her husband). BUT- while hanging out with her the other day while she was cleaning, she was picking up trash (soda cans/wrappers whatev) and having to go into the bedrooms to gather up dishes and pick up clothes off the bathroom floor. She was upset that dispite that its 'her deal' to do chores, she had to go this far to keep the house cleaned up. She said she talked to the rest of her housemates and they were just like "Leave it, I'll get to it" or "Well, you're home and you have the time and its your job".
Its not out of line to ask people to at least throw their trash away/put dishes in the sink/put their clothes in the laundry room, right? Or is she totally out of line to ask these people to pick up after themselves since its her responsiblity to keep the place clean?