||[Jul. 16th, 2010|02:18 pm]
The Question Club
My brother was in a car accident in the last half hour or so. He just called to tell me. He is 20, and has now totaled a second car. This one was his though (the first was my mom's); he saved up for this one and bought it in October.|
The thing is, he drives like a fucking lunatic. He texts, plays around with his iPod, and speeds all the time. I don't drive with him if I can help it. His car was really nice though, and I don't know how he is going to get to school (he is going full time for air traffic control and has classes/flight lessons every day of the week, and works weekends mostly at the same place I do).
He says it was someone else's fault for pulling out in front of him. I can't help but be super skeptical about this.
He is on his way home now; my mother is picking him up. I really don't know how to act about this. On one hand, I'm grateful he is ok and not injured, but fuck, I've told him repeatedly not to drive stupidly. And I can't help but think that if he had been paying attention, instead of likely texting or fooling around, he would have seen the person pull out in front of him. I can't count the number of times I've had someone pull out in front of me and none have resulted in an accident. I'm not saying that it doesn't happen, because it obviously does, but with his driving record....ugh. I mean, I'm hoping the insurance company holds her liable, but he won't be able to get a car as nice as the one he has now with whatever money he does get, and it won't solve the transportation issues in the next couple of weeks.
If this was your brother, what would you say/do when he gets home? Would you let him borrow your car? I'm pretty sure he is going to ask me and honestly, my gut reaction is that there is no way in hell I'd let him drive my car. Ever. Am I being an insensitive big sister about this? I totaled a car when I was 19, but I wasn't speeding and just hit a very wet patch on the road and spun out. The fact that he has done this now twice in two years bothers me a lot.
tl;dr: brother just wrecked another car, should I let him borrow mine if he asks? Am I a bad big sister for not wanting to let him borrow it?