||[Mar. 23rd, 2010|08:34 am]
The Question Club
Was talking to my best friend who's SO cheated on her earlier this week (her SO slept with someone).|
He told her, which I thought was cool at least he had the balls to do so.
she asked what I would do if I were her.
I told her my husband and I have a deal between us. I've told him if he makes a mistake because he's drunk or whatever the reason- I dont need to know. If he's not sleeping with someone on a normal basis, if he's not making "mistakes" every other weekend- I don't need to know about one or two stupid mistakes just because he gets caught up in the moment or is too drunk to pay attention to what's going on.
I very much like the life I have with my Husband, I very much love him and he very much loves me. We have a good relationship, again i really like our life together.
If he didn't catch anything/get the other girl pregnant, why ruin everything over a stupid mistake?
what I'm saying is, I've told him to not tell me if he cheats on me. If he's not in love with the other girl, if he doesn't want to sleep with her again, if he didn't do it because he's unhappy with me, etc- why do I need to know?
My friend hung up on me after I explained this to get up to my answer to her question.
Did I deserve to hung up on? Is this logic wrong?
I only have it because I know situations happen, people aren't perfect and mistakes can be made. No matter how much you love someone, best intentions don't always get you out of situations once you're there. and I don't see why my life has to be ruined over something stupid when I didn't have to know about it.