Say you were dating someone and you really had strong feelings for him/her and you guys had a wonderful connection emotionally, intellectually, etc., but you were quite certain he/ she was a little off. He/ She is completely functional, but frequently he/she would reference times you had together that you don't ever remember happening, or they would mention that someone you're certain you'd never met was a friend or acquaintance of yours. Sometimes, when you guys have a fierce argument, he/she would lock his/herself in the bathroom for hours and mutter to his/herself before coming out completely composed. Sometimes he/she would bring up holding a grudge about something you never remember having done. These random lapses were weren't constant at all, and usually completely unannounced unless it happened to occur during an argument, but happen frequently enough that it is a noted phenomenon. Once they happen, and you call them to his/her attention, he/she realizes what happened within a few seconds or minutes and adjusts the argument/train of thought.
Everything else about your relationship is perfect. You guys are good at compromising, not jealous, see each other regularly, etc., etc.
Do you forgive these lapses and continue dating them? For how long?
If you don't, why not?
(A bit of a survey for a thing I'm writing, not based on anything real so don't worry!)
I made delicious crock-pot chili for dinner tonight and lunch tomorrow, but I forgot to turn the crock off and it's been on "keep hot" all evening so now when I go to refrigerate it, it's still really hot, and this seems like a bad plan.
Is it safe to leave FULLY COOKED chili on the ceramic crock pot dish(removed from the actual crock part that heats) overnight with a glass lid so it can cool?
Recently seeing Psycho, I am in the mood for other classic suspense films. This brings me to a French classic "Les Diaboliques," which I have read great things about. The director, Henri-Georges Clouzotto, is being compared to Alfred Hitchcock, and has the name of "France's Master of Suspense", which makes it further intriguing. Have you seen this film? What are your favorite suspense films? Favorite foreign films?
Oh. Can somebody please translate this? (beginning text in Les Diaboliques)
une peinture est toujours assez morale quand elle est tragique et qu'elle donne l'hooeur des choses qu'elle retrace.
ETA: A human translation, not bogus internets junk.
I have borderline personality disorder or whatever you want to label it, but because of that I had a self injury problem from the ages of 12-20. It was all done on my left forearm. Now that I'm older I would like to get a tattoo somewhere on that forearm. Is that possible? I know it has to do with the amount of scarring but I thought maybe someone have more of an insight.
When you get a DVD of a movie you really like a lot, do you obsessively watch all the extras -- interviews, commentaries, making-of bits, EVERYTHING -- or are you the kind of person who JUST wants to watch the movie and doesn't give a hot damn about who made it or how?
I am the former, but my girlfriend is the latter and it always sort of baffles me. I LOVE knowing all the intricacies of how something I like was created, whether it's stage magic or classic arts or songwriting or film making. It doesn't "ruin the magic" for me AT ALL... it usually kind of enhances it because I am able to appreciate the work and the genius that went into it...
I am going to be watching my friend's 3.5 yr old very active daughter (along with my 3 yr old very active son) 3 days a week for about 5 hrs a day. I am actually watching her for the soon to be ex jerk husband and will be charging him, and I have no problem charging him, I'm just not sure how much to charge. I will most likely be providing lunch and snacks, possibly taking her on outings, etc.
How much should I charge? Should it be hourly or weekly? Do I charge extra for food/outings or just include it in the rate?
For those who work, do you eat out for lunch or bring your own? If you go out for food, where?
If you were considering moving in with your SO, but they earn significantly more than you do, has a nice apartment somewhere nice that you could never be able to afford by yourself, probably would struggle to afford even half of it, how much rent would you contribute? Half of the total rent, what you would pay at your old apartment, or something else?
I've been sick with this horrible bug for about a week now, going on week two. I only work three days a week, and this weekend I was unable to go to work because I was at the hospital and they said I should continue to rest and get better, so I have a doctors note the excuses me for two of the three days I work. I still feel like shit and am going to call in sick today, but I'm not sure what to say. What would you say if you were me?
What is your favorite place to shop for maternity clothes?
Do you play the stock market? Have you ever had or know someone who has had really good luck with the market?
1)I just found out yesterday that I like grapefruit now. Have you recently discovered you liked something that you had always disliked previously? If so, what? 2)What's your favorite artificially flavored food?
all four of my brothers had said they didn't want a funeral, and even there had to be one- that the rest of us siblings were not to attend, because they didn't like the idea of us sitting there being upset.
out of my two remaining brothers, one is going as well as my younger sister, one brother is not.
They very specifically made us promise not to go because they thought it was silly to mourne them at all (they're big christians, they saw it as they're in a 'better place' and all that and made me promise not to be upset about their passing on).
So what do you think is the proper move here?
Do what they wanted? Or would it make me a terrible person for not going?
Since I've been reading through the past couple of days of TQC I've missed, I've been rather interested on everyone's ideas about marriage. Do you "believe" in marriage?* Do you want to get married?
Personally, I don't believe in marriage. It's really only a government paper that says I can be at my SO's deathbed and get their shit if they die without a will. I personally don't think it "strengthens" relationships or keeps people from straying/cheating. The only reason I'd get married is for legal purposes; beyond that, I think marriage is rather redundant.
*Edit/Minor clarification: Does marriage "work"? Since a lot of people I've been quietly observing rely on marriage for strengthening bonds of commitment, etc. Also, I'm not advocating people not getting married nor am I saying that people shouldn't have the right to get married.
I've recently been through a break-up that lead to a fairly decent geographical distance (she lives in San Diego, I now live in Arizona). My ex has still some things of mine (my social security card, some items of clothing, etc), and I have some things of hers (a few pairs of shoes and a some knickknacks).
Do I hold her things hostage until I get at least my social security card back? (If I get my other items back, great. If I don't, I can live without them.)
And before you ask why I left my social security card there, I was forced to move out on a moment's notice and didn't think to get it before I left California.
So, I saw something on Craigslist that I want to buy and it is priced something like 75% below MSRP. Because we all know that there really are no real “good deals” out there, chances are that this is stolen or has some other shady history.
Would you buy it anyway and just give the seller the benefit of the doubt?
Additional Info: It’s a Playstation 3 and they told me that they work at GameStop and get them for a lot less money than MSRP. They guy said he sells the “demos” on the side.
have any of you worked for target before? how about starbucks? good/bad? i have an interview for a starbucks in target, can i BS my way through if i really never ever go to starbucks?
i just got a new stereo for my car, with a usb port so i could play my ipod through it, but whenever i hook it in i get this:( Collapse ) message on the ipod and nothing plays... what gives? do you know how i can get it to play through the stereo? it doesn't say anything in the owners manual.
ETA: Does anyone know where I can find a shirt that has 3/4 length sleeves with lace cut-outs on top? I know the shirt below is NOT cute and that's why I didn't order that one and why I'm asking you guys for help to find a similar style that is CUTER. Thanks.
TQC, what should I get for lunch? I live in a diverse area so I pretty much have any and all options open to me.
What is the most you would spend for a new TV?
If you have a SO, how often do you talk? If you don't have an SO pretend you do. How often would you like to be in communication? Would you be a bit disconcerted if you didn't at least talk on the phone/text/email/whatever at least once a day?
Are there any LJ communities in which you, in a manner of speaking, run the shit (admin or mod)? If not, what type of community would you like to create? I co-moderate newfriends. If I created one, it would've been a TQC rip off. I love asking and being asked questions. *shakes a fist at shippo and noodledays*
What are two of your achilles' heels? Try to give one internal and one external. Mine are my amazingly bad memory and babies.
I was just browsing the app store on my iPhone and noticed an app that costs $899.99! It's called iRa Pro. It connects to surveillance cameras or something so the person can watch their ish or whatever.
What was the last thing you've seen that was outrageously priced?
Help! I am going looking for a new futon cover today. We originally got the light color because we have a dog that sheds, but the light color got stained up pretty quick from soda drips, pen markings, and all that.
Please help me pick out a color that matches our living room! I've seen everything online from brown to red to olive green. Also, would microsuede attract more dog hair or keep it away?
Are there any situations/days when it's acceptable on going into public with PJ pants on?
Inspired by I'm going to work out this afternoon, and I work out in pajama pants because they were cheaper than buying workout pants, and I plan on going straight to the eating place on campus to grab some food and come back to my dorm. I feel weird about running around in pajamas, though, so I'm really tempted to bring my jeans to put on on top of my workout clothes but that might look sillier. I don't know.
Does coffee give you heartburn? Why am I so bad at brewing good coffee?
Yesterday I was trying to get to a theater for an extra credit project for my Music class and got lost. I saw a cop and flashed my headlights to signal to him I needed help. I pulled over and he pulled over behind me. I asked for help on how to get to this theater and he had me follow him. Meanwhile, my husband was freaking out because he did not want me to do that. Was I crazy for pulling over a cop for directions? Isn't that their job to "serve" their citizens? Anyway, when was the last time you did something that may have embarrassed your friends or have made them feel uncomfortable and you didn't understand why they reacted the way they did?
I need a new laptop. I am only willing to pay up to $600 and I don't want a Mac (not that I could get one under 600 anyway). I just need a computer for basic internet browsing, photo editing and Microsoft Office.
dk/dc: When was the last time technology failed you?
If you don't care about my awesome new table, what is your favorite store for furniture or accessories like art, vases, pillows, etc? I've had good luck with consignment/thrift stores, but was wondering if anyone knows of any good chain stores to get things.
Finally, all of my kitchen stuff is red, and my living/dining rooms are going to be blues and greens with lots of wood/metal. My bedroom furniture is light wood (ash) and I have dark brown bedding or navy blue bedding already. What color scheme should I go with in there? New bedding is a definite possibility, but if I could use what I have an accessorize with a fun color I'd be all for that, as well.
Hey TQC. I'm applying for a position to be singing wait staff on a river cruise. The audition requires that I have two songs prepared. Here's what the recruiter said:
You should prepare one ballad and one upbeat song and bring the backtracks for them. A CD player will be available. I would choose popular/classic mainstream songs, but songs that are customer appropriate.
My voice part is a first alto. What two songs should I sing? (If you need more specifics, I have poor vibrato, so songs/solos that require strong vibrato are out. I can sing fairly high pieces, but not with a lot of volume. For the ballad, I'm considering For Good from Wicked, though it's a bit tricky to navigate solo.)
Where's a good place to find karaoke versions of, well, popular/classic mainstream songs?
Also, auditions tend to make me extremely nervous. I know I would sing fine in front of the actual customers, because I really enjoy that sort of thing, but auditions give me terrible stage fright for whatever reason. I tend to physically shake, and my voice gets totally thrown. (High, squeaky, breathy, shaky, etc.) Any advice for staying calm and in control of myself so I don't end up sounding like a cat mauling a set of bagpipes? Or just tips for keeping my voice in control, if not the tremors?
Have you ever applied for any sort of job/position that you know you would really love, but you're not sure you're good enough/qualify for it?
If you went to a restaurant with a gift certificate or coupon, do you tip the waiter/ess based on the total before or after? If you are a waiter/ess, what is your experience with customers using either of those two?
I'm one of those who jumped into this community after it was featured in the spotlight. I poked around the entries and it seemed to me that there were a number of creative/artistic people floating along in this community, which is great since most of what I will probably ask has something to do with crafts or art. Plus I like the sassy banter in the comment threads :)
Anyhow, nice to meet you. Here are my first questions ::drumroll!::
1) I am preparing to open an etsy account. I make jewelry and journals. I'd like to add a little steampunk to my style. Did some research, seems that it's mostly gears (old watch parts especially) and antique keys. I already have these things and would like to broaden my horizons. Any other objects that you guys consider steampunk? So far, I think screws, nuts and bolts, and other tool finding type stuff could work also.
2) I saw in the rules that - if you post a lot of questions - it's better just to lump all of the questions into one post (so you don't majorly disrupt the friends feeds of others). Is there an unspoken rule for how many non sequitor questions can and should go into a single post?
Will you tell me about a terrible yet hilarious ebay experience?
Mine was the time I sold something to a fellow in CA (who didn't pay for any kind of expedited shipping) who couldn't understand that it might take more than 2 days to arrive in Cali from Boston.He sent me all these poorly worded emails trying to threaten me into "admitting" that I was scamming him, but his writing skills were so bad that I literally laughed when I read them. Obviously the item arrived safe and sound 5 days later and the ebay dipute he filed turned around and smacked him upside the head.
Or, what's for lunch today? I'm thinking Chipotle...
How soon into a relationship will you break it off if you know your life goals don't match (one of you wants kids, the other doesn't, or one of you wants marriage and the other doesn't, that sort of thing)?
Do you hold out hope for awhile that the other person will change their mind, or not?
Have you ever changed your mind about a major life issue because of a relationship?
My fiance went and formatted my computer. I told him he could. He told me I'd lose everything I didn't save. I saved everything I thought I would need too. I didn't know that the format would wipe Windows off my computer.
Now I'm stuck with only Notepad and it's driving me insane. Is there any other typing/word program I can get by downloading it?
Also, next week I'm going to join Pow-Wow club and really get into my Native American roots. I have to make my own outfit. Do you do any traditional dance at all?
I bought some Sea mussel capsules for my parent's dog as I've been reading about joint supplements for dogs. Anyway, I have to mail them to them... I can't seem to find anything online saying I can/can't (a few mixed answers). I would be sending it from the USA to Canada.
When you go to the bathroom and you know you're going to be in there for an extended amount of time, do you read? If so, what do you read? Do you do anything else while on the toilet (aside from urinating and defecating)?
Does any work (or used to work) for Macy's? I'm interested in submitting comments for an associate interaction I had while shopping, but I want to know if they share the exact comments with the associate. I don't want the girl hunting me down and hurting me.
DK/DC What's the last memorable shopping experience you had, whether it be good or bad?
I had an interview last monday and would like to send out a thank you letter. However, I did not get the last names of the two people who interviewed me. Would I need their last names? What would be the best way to go about getting them?
So, I'm gainfully employed as of today! (fuck yeah!)
What should I do to celebrate? a) Go out to dinner b) buy a bottle of premium hooch c) buy myself a new outfit d) treat myself to a manicure e) something hilarious and illuminating that I will expound upon in the comments.
Man so for my birthday I thought it would be fun to go see an Avenue Q show--which is basically muppets on stage, if you don't know. However, would it entirely defeat the purpose and fun to get a cheaper seat in the nosebleeds? The closer ones are too expensive to justify.
TQC, normally I wouldn't ask questions about my hair, but I'm getting it cut (and maybe colored) tomorrow, and I'm not sure exactly how I want it. I just know it needs to be changed--it hasn't been cut since July 2008. :\
So, using these pictures of my hair, will you help me decide what I should do to it? Some people have told me I could pull off a pixie cut, but I don't want to cut off that much hair. I have fat cheeks and I'm afraid if I go too short, my face will look even fatter, lol. I'm all for changing hair color, but I can't do anything extreme (pink, blue, etc) because I'm looking for a job so I need a normal color. ( Collapse )
Can you tell me about the last embarrassing thing that happened to you, or that you watched someone else do lately?
So I'm sitting in a large lobby of my Universities Physics building. Ive been here for 45 minutes, listening to the same Korean pop song on repeat (for a project). There are about 20 people in the room within 200 feet of me, and its pin-drop quiet. A cleaner just came over to tell me he was going to move a table in front of me (so he could wash under it) and i just realized that not only was my music coming out through my headphones, but it was also coming out of the speakers of my laptop, but because i had paused it every time i had removed my headphones last, i never could tell!!!! I am so embarrassed but i am trying to keep my cool...I have to sit here for another 45 min :( I feel so bad
My bathtub is full of termites!! How do I get rid of them? I have no idea where they're coming from, they were all drowned in the water left from a previous shower when I first found them, so I just washed them out of the tub. I didn't see any more until after my shower today, and now the tub is full of them again! Where are they coming from, and why are they ONLY in the tub? They're creeping me out =( How can I stop them from coming back?
I heard a song today that sounded similar to Mika's "I See You" (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkZJ1I1NBJs) but it was sung by a girl, with only piano accompaniment. Anyone know what it is, or am I making things up?
Ok, my boyfriend of 8 months told me last week that we needed a break. This being said after he said that he could marry me, he was just not financially stable yet. He's 28 I'm 25. He said these two things in the exact same conversation we had! So he called the day after to see how I was doing, then came over the day after that to drop off some stuff I left at his house that I needed for the weekend. I'm really confused, but am just giving him his space for now. I haven't called or texted him all weekend, and it feel a little weird about it because when we were together we haven't been apart for more then 24 hours. But I'm just trying to not freak out and give him space. When we first started dating he initiated the "in a relationship with" status on facebook, and now even though he's logged onto facebook quite a few times since he decided we needed a break, he hasn't changed it yet. Not even hidden it. What's up with that?
Well hello TQC. What's for dinner tonight? I'm having chinese sausages, rice and pak choi. I'm also thinking about doing some baking - can you recommend any fairly simple cake/cookie recipes? I'm in need of a sugar hit!
Okay I saw this picture once of this really long road like you have to scroll a while to get to the end of it, and the end of it is like this really happy jumping goat. Basically this doesn't sound very funny but its probably the most hilarious thing I've ever seen and I haven't been able to find it since. Can anyone find this picture for me?
How soon after an interview do you expect to be contacted again, either w/ a job offer or setting up a second interview, etc?
I had an interview a week and a half ago, and I haven't heard anything. I assumed I didn't get the job, moved on, but apparently someone has been calling to verify my employment history and I'm kind of at a loss as to who else it would be, though maybe I'm just being hopeful.
1) I listened to my iPod today with headphones for the first time. This is also the first time I've used the smaller "in the ear" style of headphones; when I had a Walkman years ago I used the larger "earmuff" earphones. I didn't have the music on loud (if I took them out of my ears I couldn't hear the music at all) but I got a headache and I think the headphones may have been the cause. Does anyone else have that problem?
2) The ID3 tags in my mp3 collection are in many cases missing or incomplete. I know I can manually looking through the iTunes program for empty fields. But I like to keep my collection separate from iTunes as a backup measure and just use iTunes to manage what is on my iPod. Can anyone recommend any program I can use to search for empty fields or see a count by genre so I can standardize the info?
On a scale of 1-10, how disgusting is it to have your dog drink out of the toilet, and not set out a bowl of water for her instead?
Who's fault is it if you use a knife to cut cheese, and the person who has already used the knife flips out because they used it to cut raw chicken? Should the person who uses the knive to cut the cheese had know it was already used, or should the person who used the knife to cut the chicken have cleaned the knife and put it away?
Do you feel grossed out when you see clumps of dog hair in the corners of the stairs because no one vacuums the stairs?
So, inspired by the post two doors down, I've been looking into Benefit again. I love this line of cosmetics, but it's sometimes failed me before. I just have to have something from it again though, I effing love the packaging.