||[Feb. 17th, 2010|10:35 am]
The Question Club
|How do you find the strength to get an ex out of your life for good when you feel guilty about it?
My ex husband keeps emailing me sporadically, mentioning things going on, and my rational response is "don't respond to anything, he's trying to manipulate you in to feeling sorry for him because he's lonely" (which is the case - part of why we're getting a divorce). I didn't even respond to the email about his grandmother being given her last rites. Anyway, he IMs me, and when I see that, I feel obligated to respond. I feel anxious when I talk to him because I DON'T want to talk to him, but I feel guilty if I don't. He always says how much he misses me, but to be frank, I haven't even spoken to him in so long, I forgot what his voice sounds like or what it was even like to be with him. I just don't want to feel guilty because I'm happy and he's not. So I need to stop.
More pressing issue: my room mate's daughter is 13. She, apparently, has manly hairy legs because EVERY time she shaves, she uses the bathroom for about two hours and leaves it super nasty and hairy. Last night, after her shower, I went in to the bathroom and I saw the bath tub was COATED with hair. I made an "ugh" sound and she asked "Oh, is it too steamy in there?" and I said no, the floor was slippery - hoping she would go in there and maybe notice she hadn't cleaned the tub. She's a 13 year old girl, she has a mother, I can't parent her. Anyway, I woke up this morning, and she had rinsed out the tub, but didn't clean it, so there's a lot of hair and shaving cream residue left behind. I need to take a shower, but I feel like puking at the idea of cleaning out someone else's hair. Should I wake her up and tell her to do it? Would that make me a bitch?
Also, how can I approach her mom without sounding like a cunt?
DK/DC/Bonus: What color is your cell phone? What ringtone do you have?
Mine is blue. I have "Bad Romance" for everyone, but my boyfriend's is "Yellow" by Coldplay because that's our song.