|To Delete, or Not To Delete?
||[Jan. 26th, 2010|06:07 pm]
The Question Club
I dated this guy for a month and a half last year. Things were going really well and got psuedo-serious between us.
All of the sudden I stopped hearing from him, and then after a week I received a vague Facebook message from him the day before New Years saying "Sorry I've been MIA lately, hope you have a good New Years, whatever you're doing". I was totally baffled but sent a short, pretty chill, non-emotional reply saying "Yeah, Happy New Years to you too", and "see ya later".
I found out a few days later, courtesy of my Facebook minifeed, that he had gotten back together with his ex-girlfriend over Christmas (I found out because his friend posted on his wall asking who he was bringing to his Staff Christmas party, and he answered "My smoking hot girlfriend is accompanying me").
So, yeah, douchebag.
What would be worse:
1) Leaving him on my Facebook friends list (pretty much solely to project the impression that I don't give a shit that he was a total asshole to me and don't even care enough to delete him cause I've moved on - all things I wouldn't mind projecting).
This, however, means having to deal with seeing updates from him. I've "hidden" him from my Minifeed, but when he uploades new pictures they still appear on my "Friends' recently updated albums" page, as I learned when I stumbled on 30 pictures of him and his ex/new girlfriend at a concert he uploaded yesterday.
I also learned that I don't have the willpower to NOT click on the album and look at all the pictures and feel like shit afterwards.
2) Deleting him from my Facebook friends list, which means not having to deal with seeing updates from him, but running the risk of looking bitchy/immature/emotional/vindictive (all things I REALLY would rather not project myself as) when he notices I've deleted him.
Why do I care what the douchebag thinks of me? Good question, TQC. Cause I'm not quite over him yet.
I can't rationalize us ever dating again, because I'd always be 1) Untrusting of him and 2) Pissed that he let things get that far between us and then tossed me aside. And I really can't see us ever becoming friends in the future (which is weird, cause up until now I've remained friends with all my of exes — maybe because I'm usually the one who dumps them). Still, I'm apprehensive about what path to take here.
Do I close the door?