||[Dec. 21st, 2009|02:51 pm]
The Question Club
My friend broke up with her boyfriend of 4 years back in October. Starting around Halloween she was dating another guy, but they ended things this weekend. She was really upset because he didn't want kids or marriage, and just thought they were doing things for fun. She claims she really liked him, but he's someone that's so not her type and who doesn't really have a lot going for him in life. Regardless, she was pretty upset and was wondering "Why can't things just work out and why can't the guy I like just be the right guy for me?" |
I'm perpetually single, so I keep trying to tell her things like being alone isn't the worse thing in the world, that this is the time for us to be single, we're young and shouldn't have any man tie us down, etc. These things are not so comforting to her.
TQC, I don't know how to help her. I had originally told her back in October that she needed to take at least 6 months for herself before jumping into anything new or old. I need a different approach. How else can I make her realize that she doesn't need a boyfriend to define her?
For those tl;dr: How can I help my friend realize it's ok to be single?
For those who don't care: Are you lactose intolerant? Doesn't it suck sometimes?