||[Dec. 10th, 2009|02:35 pm]
The Question Club
TQC, i need some help with roommate etiquette.|
My roomie is normally awesome. Shes sweet and lovely, but lacks care for kitchenware. I love to cook so the things i buy are usually of at least decent quality, while she just buys the cheapest stuff to get her by. I have learned to keep most of my high quality stuff at my bf's house, where i do most of my cooking. In the summer i was given an expensive pan from my Dad, but knowing my roomie would destroy it, i put it in to storage for when she moves out (April). My bf already has a bunch of pans and no room for storage in his kitchen. I came home one day to find her using it to make a stir fry with a metal fork, scratching the bottom. I didnt get angry, but explained to her that it was very expensive and that she had to be very careful. She offered to not use it, and since we have 5 other pans, i agreed. I put the pan back away in storage.
Fast forward to today. I come home and notice it in the drying rack. I can see it is more scratched up then before. I am confused and upset seeing as I havent even used this pan yet and now its destroyed. I know its not like she genuinely meant to mess it up, its just not something she thinks about. I was concerned, so i texted her 'hey, if youre going to use (my expensive pan), please please be very careful.' She replied saying that she has 'only used plastic on it and if i feel more comfortable, she wont use it anymore'.
Should i approach her about it more directly? Or not bother at all? I figure, whats going to really come if i approach her about it. We really rarely see each other due to busy schedules. Should i just give up and let her mess up the pan even more? Should i passively aggressively move the pan to my bfs house? Do i make her replace it? Im worried she took my text like some angry note and i dont want to be sour, but i thought she understood how i felt. :(
If that question is too long for you-what is your favorite snack food? I like crackers with cheese