||[Dec. 4th, 2009|05:16 pm]
The Question Club
So I have not seen my close friend from college since I graduated six months ago. She's currently living with her parents, and she was going to come pick me up tonight and bring me to her house to spend the weekend with her. But she just called me to let me know that her grandmother, who also lives with her, isn't doing well and may not make it through the night. She and her parents would still like to see me and have me visit. I was kind of caught off guard by all this, which my friend noticed, and she said, "If you want to call me back later and let me know, that's fine!"|
I really want to see my friend and be there for her, but...she's just so unusually nonchalant about this. Perky, even. Like, the passing of her grandmother is just an inconvenience to our hang out time. It's weirding me out. But this could be her coping strategy, or maybe her grandmother has been sick for a long time and she's already grieved or...something.
Anyway, do you think I'd be a bad friend if I declined the invitation? She says there's a possibility her grandmother will be fine, but at the same time...I'll be staying in her room, so what if her parents come in to wake her up to say her last goodbyes to her grandmother? I mean...how awkward is that? And I lost my uncle a year and a half ago, and I remember that the last thing I wanted to do was deal with people, let alone house guests. When I asked her, "Do you want me to be there? Do you need a friend right now?" she replied, "No, no, I'm fine, but I would just really like to hang out!" So...fuck, I don't know.
What should I do, TQC?