||[Jul. 22nd, 2009|08:57 pm]
The Question Club
I have a problem. In a few weeks I will be graduating from college and moving back home to live with my grandmother (who raised me) for a while. My plan is to find a decent job and pay off most of my loans, while helping out my gram and living rent free. I'm 22, and it is becoming increasingly more acceptable to move back home after college, especially due to the economy. My plan is to be out of there within a year or two though. I should also mention that I haven't lived at home full time since I was 12 because I went to a boarding school for high school, which was out of state, and I also went to an out of state college. And here's my issue:
I'm used to being independent. I don't ask anyone for permission, but now that I'm living with my gram, she's going to try and control me. Other than the obvious (respecting her by not drinking in her house, no bringing guys over, and other "duhs" that you don't do with parents), how much control should she reasonably be able to have over me? Should I have to follow a curfew? Is it reasonable for her to tell me not to sleep over people's houses, especially a boyfriend's? Is there a way to explain to her gently what rules I will and will not follow?
Also, how old is too old to be living at home? I want to be out of there by 24ish, but she's already flipped out on me when I mentioned this. She said that living with your parents is better than living with a roommate, and that it is an unnecessary expense. As far as I see it, you're labeled a loser if you live with your parents for too long. Plus, that can be really detrimental to a romantic relationship. Isn't it bad to be living with your mom up until marriage?
In addition to all of this, she uses this excuse that people my age aren't really adults yet, because their brain isn't fully developed, and therefore I am still a child. Idk... she saw it on TV or something. It pisses me off to no end. I'm just really frustrated and don't know how to deal with someone telling me what to do, after I've gone so long generally making my own decisions. It doesn't help that she is very conservative and I am very liberal. Help!?!?
(Sorry so long!)