|Very Very long, dont know how to cut. However, I need opinions on this.
||[Feb. 23rd, 2009|09:59 am]
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First off, i'm sorry this is so damn long |
My father had a great job and was well respected by the entire community. My mother was an extremely part-time nurse, working 3 days a week. My father was a saver and very level headed. My mom is very selfish and stupid with money.
I am the youngest of 3 children. My older siblings got a lot of help from my parents. college paid for, car insurance and health insurance paid for, even help with living expenses. Then my dad died when I was 19. My mom said to me that I am shit out of luck and I will not be receiving any help for college. So there I was, spending a crap load of money on rent + bills + tuition + car insurance + groceries. It was bad. I didn't even turn the heat on in the winter and would sleep beneath every blanket i owned. Once I called her and told her that my situation was getting really bad and that I was worried because I was running out of food and I only had a budget of 4 dollars to do my grocery shopping a month (afterall, rent and tuition had priority over that). My mom said she'd send me money. She sent me a check for 10 dollars. My mom never has even come to visit me in the 5 years I have lived here, even though she is 200 miles away.
Meanwhile, my mother met a new man. She met him just 3 months after the death of my father and she married him just 5 months later. This guy smoked and lived in a single wide trailer. My mom hates smokers. With my dad's life insurance money (260,000 dollars), she bought a house for them to live in. She also bought him a jeep wrangler. She also bought him an ATV. She also got plastic surgery (lipo + boob job). She also bought herself a brand new H2 Hummer. She also bought him a 5,000 dollar depth finder (for fishing).
Now for the part that really bothers me... 2 years before my dad died, my grandpa passed away (my dad's dad). My dad decided to pay off his brother and sister their equal portions of the house that was going to be auctioned, and he "bought" my grandpa's house, a house that my grandpa built and raised my dad and his siblings in. My mom HATED this. She made my dad put everything in his name, because she wanted nothing to do with this. My dad rented it out in the meantime, with hopes of remodeling it one day and moving into it once he and my mother retired (as it is in a bigger town with more resources). When my dad died, my mom would always complain about the "headache" that is the other house. She promised me and my siblings that when she sells it, she would split the money 3 ways (to me and my siblings), as she didn't want anything to do with it in the first place. When she remarried, her new husband convinced her to sell it. She then took the money and gave us nothing. In a matter of 2 months, all the money is gone. they bought a boat and paid off their morgage. I told my uncle (dad's brother) this, and he is outraged and feels that the money should have went to the kids.
This has been causing me a ton of stress. My father always wanted us kids to succeed and not to have to struggle. I feel like I have been forgotten about. I know he would be completely pissed at my mom for what she has done. We used to be a very close family, but this has ripped us apart.
So.... my question is, should I sue my own mother and her dumbass husband (for the money that she "promised" us from my grandpa's house)? Do I have a case here?