|Another post that requires your input
||[May. 1st, 2008|05:53 pm]
The Question Club
I need your advice again. Twice in 2 days!|
The saga unfolds like this. My friend Alvin got an email from the Hooters Hotel in Vegas, which gave him a ridiculously good deal for 3 nights. 2 beds, 2 free tickets to their shows, $100 free gambling credits, and probably something else, all for $180. That's for 3 nights in Sin City. He told me and we both agreed that yeah, that's too good to pass up, even if Hooters is a shitty hotel. So, the plan was it was going to be Alvin, Heather (his girlfriend) and myself. Then, inexplicably, he asks a mutual friend, Kamper, if he wants to come, too. Kamper accepts the invitation. Now, Kamper's gay, and is dating some guy named Eric, and it's still in the honeymoon phase of the relationship. Within the next 24 hours, Kamper asks Alvin if Eric can come along. Alvin said he'd check with Heather and myself and gather our opinions. Also, Kamper's never been to Vegas before, so this would be his maiden trip to that city of lights.
Kamper's a nice guy, but I'd rather not have him bring his boyfriend along, cause the idea of 2 guys sharing personal displays of affection within my group kind of icks me out. I'm not really that big into PDAs anyway. I've had straight friends who can't keep their hands off their SOs in my presence, and I found that pretty tasteless too. Now, I have a lot of gay friends, but I've never really hung out with any of them when they're with their lovers, so I've never been exposed to that before. I realize the hangup is purely on my end, that I'd be kind of a douchebag if I voted Eric off the trip and compromised Kamper's enjoyable vacation somewhat. They'll get the other bed, and if gay love happens, then I'll just leave the room and stroll around the casino or hit a bar. But I'm worried that the trip will have moments of awkwardness, times where I'll walk on acts of privacy that might sear themselves into my longterm memory, or I'll be privy to romantic opportunity that I'm not very comfortable witnessing. See, any couple in love/infatuation will view a 3-day Vegas trip as a romantic getaway. I sure as hell would. I can't imagine being in a happy environment like Vegas with a sweetie and not holding hands or whispering lovers' secrets in her ear or any happy couple's thing. Is it logical to think that Kamper and Eric will remain entirely plutonic in public? Part of me worries that my tolerance of gay love will be tested, and also that my options ar really only two choices: vote no on Eric and probably look like a bigoted bastard, or vote yes and pretty much sign off on whatever happens afterwards.
I realize I'm overthinking this, but I am torn between being a decent guy and my own comfort level of witnessing PDAs. I'll have to give Alvin my official opinion soon.
What should my opinion be?
Invite Eric along. The more the merrier
If the prospect of gaymance unfolding in my immediate group makes me uncomfortable, I should go with my gut and say that I would prefer Eric didn't come