|A bit tl;dr but I'd like opinions.
||[Feb. 9th, 2008|09:47 am]
The Question Club
Right, TQC. So, I'm in a bit of a pickle. My boyfriend of nearly two years is in a really bad way in the hospital (complications of having cancer). I'm not with him. This is because there's about 700 miles between us. I'm in North Carolina for college and he's back home in Connecticut. I'm really, really worried about him, and haven't been getting updates on his progress like I was when he was diagnosed last year, so I'm going a little nuts. Basically, all I know right now is that he's in the ICU for observation because a procedure to remove fluid from his lungs went awry, but that he's doing okay. I don't know how bad he is exactly (well, he must be doing pretty badly indeed for his mother to have to call me). However, he says that he's doing okay, and although this gives me some comfort, he told me he was doing okay last year when he nearly died on four separate occaisions. I'm debating flying up there for the weekend. He's at Sloan-Kettering, and I technically could procure a direct flight out of Raleigh to JFK or LaGuardia, but therein lies the rub. A) it's most likely going to be very expensive, adding in things like food and incidentals. B) I don't have anywhere to stay other than the hospital, and I don't know what their policies are like in regards to SOs just hanging out. C) I feel like I'd just be getting in the way, but at the same time, I know I'd make him feel better by being there. D) My parents would likely disown me if they found out, but since I control my own debit card statements now, I can pretty much do what I want and not really worry. I do have the money, but I'd have to take it out of my long-term college fund, the stuff that's going to last me through the next two years of college. E) I have classes on Monday that I can't miss, so I'd only be there for about 12 to 14 hours at the most. |
TQC, should I stay or should I go? And if I should stay, is there anything I can do to lessen my anxiety about his progress and the situation in general?
UPDATE: I just checked out a whole bunch of flights. Good news: I can get a round trip for about $200, which means I'd need about $300 or so to get through the weekend. Bad news: I'd only be there for about 20 hours, and he'd be sleeping for most of them, since I'd get there around 8 pm tonight and leave late afternoon tomorrow. There's really no point. Thanks anyway, everyone.